been feeling very depressed as of late

[604CB7]

Often when we are unhappy, it's hard to see the good that we should be thankful of. Any and all financial problems can be fixed with a better form of employment. Often there are bad times in every and all cities. Being from Vancouver BC Canada I can definitely sympathize with a slow economy. Yes my city does have decent jobs available but the cost of living is the highest in the country. Being someone who used to see only the bad I have learned to start small and build up. If you are healthy, have food to eat, a roof over your head, good friends and family, then you are more better off then most. Often we are sad as we had big hopes and dreams and because we are not living up to our own perceptions we tend to feel bad. Don't allow what is not your fault or what you cannot fix yourself get you down. Accept that in time things will get better. Girls come and go and most guys on here can say that there are always more fish in the sea. If you lack a good support group maybe consider join a club or volunteer somewhere and try making some new friends while making a small different for whatever group you are working with. The best thing to do if you are feeling bad is to keep busy. Yes it can be hard at first but often it takes time to build yourself a good life that you are feeling fulfilled in. Best of luck man as I have been down that road before and do know you are not alone. Many go through this at least once in their lives and there are many stories to be told. Just keep your head up and work on your ride. At worst take a relaxing drive and let your mind rest. Best of luck man and take care.

[phatdoughnut]

That really sucks, Ryan.

Since pretty much everything at home has fallen apart, why not search nationwide for work? Find a job anywhere, and just pick up and move?
While things suck as they are now, it's a perfect opportunity to make things better for yourself. I know it's hard to leave everything that's familiar, but there's no better time to do it. Nothing is familiar to you at the moment!

This, South Dakota and Oklahoma have great oil paying jobs.

[topcop182]

Que worlds smallest violin....now!

[bobbycos]

ryan ,how you feeling now??

[RyanD]

ryan ,how you feeling now??

I'm feeling a lot better.

i did some small work on the cb which really gave me time to think deeply about whats going on in my life.

i learned today that atlantic aviation is having a job fair which is a company i have been wanting to get an interview for the longest time.

im learning a lot from you guys to just keep putting on and hope for the best. my head is held high once again and im looking foward to the future.

i cannot thank you guys enough for the support. you all really made me feel a lot better about my current situation.

[cb7 calling]

Depression sucks. It occurred to me last night, I was like hey that depression thread is the same guy with the vaping Sig. Well I've quit smoking before, hardest thing I didn't really complete. I dunno anything about vaping but I bet there is probly some relation between not smoking analogues and your mood. I'm not saying start smoking. I'm saying your outlook on your life can effect how you feel about your problems. Your brain can make you feel like death himself is coming for you over spilled milk. I'm not saying your problems are smaller or any bigger than anyone else. I'm saying do what it looks like your doing all ready and use solutions to try to stay positive and put stressful situations into prospective.

[toycar]

im just writing this to get it out of my system. im looving for some advice maybe some cheering up


ever since ive moved back from college home has just not been the same. my parents got divorced while i was away and since comming back its really taking its toll on me. the eco sucks ass out here so im forced to live with one of my parents. my dad has no room in his house so im forced to live with my mom.

recently my mom got evicted from her apt and now im forced to live with my best friend so i dont really have a place to call home. my mom currently lives with her boyfriends mom until she can save enough to get a place of her own.

i feel like im all alone with almost everything in life. i have a shitty job that pays me just enough to afford gas and insurance let alone cell phone service and oil for the car. i have been trying to get a better job but ive had no luck for a month

my friend has a gf so he does most stuff with her while im left to mope around town lonely for hours on end. i just found out im spending halloween alone.

there is a lot of other emotional shit going on that i cant really explain. im not one to contemplate suicide but it just seems like everything would be better if i just were no around.

i feel like im just a burden on everyone. most time i just want to drive far far away to excape it all but im trapped in my missrable existance.

sorry to post this sob story but i just need to tell somebody.

You know Ryan, I am going to speak from the heart on this one so I hope it means something to you. I only read this post and decided to write something, so take that for what its worth.








In life my friend, shit happens. I am guessing you are about 21-23 years old or younger. You most likely have disconnected from the satisfying social life you had in highschool at this point, but not yet have found your path as a man.

Work sucks and doesn't pay enough. Housing is becoming an issue. The people around you that you always had the utmost confidence in, are crumbling to their knees and showing you weakness. Nothing is going right, it seems like everything needs to change but where to start? Everything is stopping everything else from progressing, it seems like reasons are turning into excuses, and your closest friends are growing distant.






Sound familiar?








Ok. So, heres the deal. Most people go through this, and you need to seize the moment. You need to focus on doing some good for yourself. It seems like you are at the crossroads when all the fallacy in life starts to erode and you are getting a clearer picture of just how nasty life really is.


Welcome to the grind.



Its hard to watch people like your parents more or less collapse in life. My parents self destructed with drugs and credit. I can relate.




When I was your age, I wish I knew what I know now.




I probably come across like an asshole most of the time right? Prolly, firm in my position and expressive to say the least right? I am also successfull and do well in life. Take that for what its worth.


You are in a point of your life that you need to find your own path. Sometimes there is no clear path though, and in those scenarios, you have to force your way. People aren't going to help you, most of the time you are going to feel like they are out to fuck you-and they are. People will act like your friend, just because they are too much of a pussy to tell you the truth. You will find yourself questioning everything, but only one thing holds true here. You are stuck with YOU no matter what so YOU should probably learn how to LOVE YOURSELF. You know how you feel. You know what you want in life, its time to ask yourself this one question;



How bad do you want it?






Sometimes it feels like everything would be better off without you. When you think those thoughts, you should just know that you need to do more to have a positive impact on your life. Seems thing are so elaborate and difficult to fix or change, right? Doesn't it feel like you have to do x before you can get y done, but you cannot do x till z is done so what ever shall you do?


You have to make things more simple. Focus on getting shit done, one small step at a time. Feel accomplished for basic shit and focus on the idea that even though you feel like shit would be better without you, thats just not true. You are dealing with some difficult stuff right now, and you need to focus on you. When you pull through this, just like everything else that happens in your life, you'll be able to reflect on this time as well. Don't let yourself down, double down on effort and force your way in life.



I got up and watched the sunrise today. Did you?

I read the news daily, do you?

I can tell you what prices mortgages are going for, what precious metals are trading for, and that we attacked in Somolia again yesterday as well as like 20 other things I learned already today. Learning makes me feel accomplished, and I read constantly. I enjoy carrying conversation about real stuff with people, because, well, thats what people talk about as you get older.

Why get up and watch the sunrise? Because, only once in your life is it going to be October 29th, 2013. Do you want today to be a good day or a bad day? Keep life simple, and life will be simple. One of my most favorite things to do is take a shower. Simple right? Fuck, in the shower thats the one time of the day that I can ALWAYS just zone out and relax. Nobody fucking with me in the shower. No cell phones, no work, no kids, no life, no nothing but me and my suds.


Make life simple I guess is what I am saying. The shit I do regularly to make me happy, is free. I watch the sunrise everyday and it helps me gather my thoughts. Doesn't matter if I am in California or Nebraska, everyday, I watch the sunrise. Its free, nobody else does it, its gorgeous, the air always feels great, and when the sun has risen you have been awake long enough standing outside that you are ready to be up for the day. The brisk air always feels refreshing. Basically, its sets my vibe for the day.



SO, basically what I am saying, is its time to define YOUR path. Find YOUR little things. Find YOUR way in life. Make YOUR own way. Realize that YOU are the only person stopping YOU. Nobody knows YOU better than YOU. Go make yourself happy. Its not going to be easy, your going to have to work a bunch and do shit you would rather not deal with.


Its all good. YOU are worth it.


How bad do YOU want it?

[GeoffM]

I got up and watched the sunrise today. Did you?

This isn't as substantial as if you said it in June or July.

But I get what you're saying.

[aluminum13]

A bit late coming into this but the shortest answer I can think of is don't waste time asking why about questions you can't really ever get an answer on. Accept that bit of mystery and focus on what you actually can get a grasp on.

Accept and be grateful for whatever you have right now. If you want to get somewhere - anywhere, you can only start to get there using what you got in your pocket right at this moment. You have no other choice.

If you're not fully aware of what you can do and what you have at your disposal, there will be opportunities sitting right in front of you that you didn't realize you could take. Those might be the ones that will get you unstuck.