Does anyone have one of those "friends"

[Leung]

That rely on you to help them work on their car because they are too cheap/lazy/stupid to do it themselves?

Well i have this one that is all three combined. Like back in late January or early February, he hits a patch of ice and slid up on a curb to hit a hydrant. He calls me repeatedly, was sleeping and didn't want to pick my cell, while he's stuck on the side of the saying that what had happened and that his car won't start now plus there was a lot of oil dumping onto the ground.

Anyhow lets flash forward a few months to where dood gets his car back from the shop and he brings it by my house so i can look over it since his engine is leaking oil. Upon inspection his valve cover is leaking oil by the camp hump and in the corner by the power steering pump. After telling him that that changing that gasket he ought to be good so we go out and buy everything.

So I get him all fixed up but knowing he doesn't have a lot of money he promised to take me out to breakfast one day which i'm still waiting on. Now last night is what really pissed me off about the guy; i called him first around 5pm EST because i knew he would be home so i could ask him if i could use him as a reference for job that i wanted to apply for. He doesn't answer. I waited fifteen minutes because maybe he was dropping a deuce and tried again; no answer. So i said F' it and just texted him asking if i could use him as a reference because i thought it would be rude to use him and not ask first. I still haven't received a reply yet.

Just last weekend, he was having issues with his laptop where it was getting really hot and asked if he could swing by so i could take a look at it. Since i wasn't doing anything i said sure. Turned out his fan was just clogged with dust so i blew it out with the last breath from my only can of compressed air.

SO basically whenever he is in a jam, he calls me repeatedly until i answer my phone. If i still don't answer he sends a text through to me asking if i was ignoring him on purpose or something. If i don't reply to that, he texts my brother asking him to ask me to call him back. Now when i need help from him i can't get the mofo to answer his freaking phone or at the least send back a simple Y or N. I'm really thinking about just cutting my losses and deleting him from my cellphone. I can't count on him for anything.

A few years back my older brother was having a mental breakdown and he was going to blow himself away with a shotgun. Now he lives all the way down in Lexington Kentucky so his wife calls me asking me to help bring him home after spending the night at a loony bin; so i had to leave work early to drive down to help her. Normally after work i picked up my younger brother and sister from high school but having to rush down to Lexington i had to ask my "friend" to see if he could swing over there for me and do that. I even offered him 50 bucks cash when i got back home to do that for me and he said he didn't want to because he hates the traffic over there. Like WTF? Luckily one of the guys from my work said he'd drive them home because he lived over that way.


So does anyone have a "friend" like this?

[Ralphie]

Yea, my brother.

After I moved to NYC from Fla he decided to move here as well for work.

He moved up here into my Aunt/Uncles spare apt.

Anytime he needed ANYTHING(since he didn't bring a car with him and had to rely on public transportation) I stopped what I was doing and helped him out.

I even drove in crappy snowy weather to bring him some ice melt since I knew he couldn't lug that through snow from the store home.

Fast foward two years....I move out to NJ.

I call him up and ask him if he can come out with me to the house one day to check it out and help paint.

His only days off were sunday. He worked M-Sat.

His answer?

NO.

Im like dude its not a big deal...come with me....you help with whatever you can, and then ill drop you off when we get back into the city.

No...."sunday is my only day off and I need it"

Now I understand being burnt out from a long week of working and having only one day off and not wanting to waste it by doing more work, BUT

Were fucking brothers and at the least wouldn't you want to see my new house?

So ya, I know people like that.

Ive had friends that were more like your friend....only hear from them when they want or need something.

I just ignore them and they usually find someone else to bother.

[Leung]

that sucks that its your own brother. My younger brother is starting to be a douche again.. last week his laptop HDD decided to crap out while still on warranty. I told him instead of spending like 100 bucks for a similar size drive, to just call up Toshiba and claim the warranty. That lazy bastard couldn't even call them up; he brought everything down to me instead.

My older brother helped me out a few years ago when i was looking for a vehicle so he drove all the way up from Lexington to drive me to Dayton to look at a Ranger. Yesterday was his only day off also and he needed my help drive him around. I remember that last time he helped me out so i drove the 1.5 hours to him to take him to a toyota dealer; bastard bought himself a 2009 TRD Tacoma with four doors. Sharp looking truck i must say but damn did he pay for that thing.

I always return the favor when i ask others for one. I don't forget, just wished others were the same.

[RedFalcoln]

One of my best friends, He has a really nice 1995 Toyota celica, all it needs is a repainted hood/spoiler and it's set well at least it would have been he's had it for about two years now and I changed his oil/filter once, he does no maintenance on it and complains it's a crappy car, the car is great! he just never maintained it! I hate it, it truly pisses me off to see people treat cars like complete crap. His power steering gave out a few weeks ago, I popped the hood, he never added any fluid! he had to buy new brake rotors because he was too lazy to change the brakes before! it's just ehh disgusting to me, I feel sorry for the car.

[Leung]

That reminds me, he said he is going to need his brakes done sometime soon. If he calls, i'm not answering.

[zmanwit90accord]

Hate to say it but I'm one of those friends.

Not to the extent of the one you described but I'll be honest, I rely on my friend for my car's needs like a baby does to its mother. I've gone to him for just about everything I can think of. But I'm grateful when he does work on my car and I try my best to reward what I can. I also ensure that when he needs me, I'm there.

I also try not to only call when I need something done, but it's hard to hang out when it's a 45min drive. It's tough having someone like that as a "friend," that's why I try not to associate with selfish people.

[Leung]

Hate to say it but I'm one of those friends.

Not to the extent of the one you described but I'll be honest, I rely on my friend for my car's needs like a baby does to its mother. I've gone to him for just about everything I can think of. But I'm grateful when he does work on my car and I try my best to reward what I can. I also ensure that when he needs me, I'm there.

I also try not to only call when I need something done, but it's hard to hang out when it's a 45min drive. It's tough having someone like that as a "friend," that's why I try not to associate with selfish people.

yeah this guy only lives like 5 minutes from me but he is always 30 minutes to an hour late every time we went for Chinese on Saturdays back in the day.

[crazymikey]

I say fuck this guy. He's a user. He's a mooch. He's greedy and gives nothing back. What kind of friend is that?

[LadyG]

The BF has this problem.
There are people in our scene who pay shops/people to do their mods- and can't change their own oil. They txt my ole man at ALL HOURS asking "how do I do this?"
ITS CALLED A CHILTON MANUEL BITCH, use it.

I mean seriously, how fuckin' baller are you, if you have a beast covered in expensive parts- built by other people- and you can't even maintain it yourself?

My BFF can do all her regular maintenance and change her brake pads- using the Manuel- and she is NOT a car chick. But people who's cars make Mags can't figure out how to change a VC gasket?

Can you tell its a sore subject? LOL

My ole man is SO busy, between his regular job and trying to start his buisness, and our family. I feel like I need to create a 1-900 line for him, so if he's going to be people's dial-a-mech- at least he'd make some money on it!!!

[BurtonRiderT6]

I've never really had this problem mainly because if thats how they are, then they are no friend of mine. Most of my friends are always there if needed, the only one that isn't there is my best friends girl. It never affected me as I just call him, but it has affected my girl so it creates a negative attitude toward her in my mind. Selfish/lazy/cheap to the max, the stories I could tell. She's also the one no one can stand in our group of friends.

My ole man is SO busy, between his regular job and trying to start his buisness, and our family. I feel like I need to create a 1-900 line for him, so if he's going to be people's dial-a-mech- at least he'd make some money on it!!!

Now that's funny if you're talking about what I assume you may be talking about. When people say family I think kids.

[MikeW]

Sounds like some bitch shit to me. Just sayin.

[LadyG]

Now that's funny if you're talking about what I assume you may be talking about. When people say family I think kids.

Uh, yeah kids.
We have three boys. 9, 7, and 1.5.
What did you think I meant?

[mappyCB7]

WOw that sucks. Trust me you'll be much better off when you cut him off. I had a friend all through highschool whom I considered to be my "best friend." He was really cool at first. I'd go to his house all the time and became really close to his parents so we were almost like brothers. Then as time went on I started to notice he would only hang out with me when he was bored/had nothing to do. Wouldn't invite me anywhere but would call if he was too drunk to drive or needed car help. We had other issues which I won't get in to but nothing that would condone the way he started to use me. Once this became a frequent happening (calling at 3am for a ride 3 days a week) I decided to cut the dude off. I still see the guy every now and then but he's become a huge hipster douche.

Anyway I make it a point not to be around people like that anymore. I call on my friends and family for a lot of things and they always come through and the times they don't they have a real reason for it. I'm called upon quite a bit as well and I always try to be there. Growing up and having increasing responsibility means less time to just hang around with friends. i still make it a point to find time to hang out just because.

There's always going to be times when you feel left out or used. there's also times where you might feel like a user. Just make sure that it's not just you being butt hurt before severing ties. The way it looks homie is a total tool and you should probably cut him off but I don't know either of you so yeah. Good luck!

[mappyCB7]

WOw that sucks. Trust me you'll be much better off when you cut him off. I had a friend all through highschool whom I considered to be my "best friend." He was really cool at first. I'd go to his house all the time and became really close to his parents so we were almost like brothers. Then as time went on I started to notice he would only hang out with me when he was bored/had nothing to do. Wouldn't invite me anywhere but would call if he was too drunk to drive or needed car help. We had other issues which I won't get in to but nothing that would condone the way he started to use me. Once this became a frequent happening (calling at 3am for a ride 3 days a week) I decided to cut the dude off. I still see the guy every now and then but he's become a huge hipster douche.

Anyway I make it a point not to be around people like that anymore. I call on my friends and family for a lot of things and they always come through and the times they don't they have a real reason for it. I'm called upon quite a bit as well and I always try to be there. Growing up and having increasing responsibility means less time to just hang around with friends. i still make it a point to find time to hang out just because.

There's always going to be times when you feel left out or used. there's also times where you might feel like a user. Just make sure that it's not just you being butt hurt before severing ties. The way it looks homie is a total tool and you should probably cut him off but I don't know either of you so yeah. Good luck!

[mozzandherb]

I rely on my friends for stuff, but there's a difference between asking and/or demanding, and using/not using. I love all my friends and I'm lucky to have them and they are all good at many different things. Me on the other hand, I have talents that are pretty much useless for my friends..lol...I'm good at school, writting essays, researching, and sports...most of my friends on the other hand are mechanics, landscapers, cement workers, welders and computer geeks. But it all works out