How do you deal with stress?

[JohnD1079]

ok, heres the deal, i work for my parents, and i hate it, i cant really quit, don't really have a choice. Its like s super high stress environment office type thing. Im the type of guy that keeps it in, keeps it in, and then one day someones guts is on the wall because i couldn't keep it all in. I know its bad, but its me. My question is, what do you guys do to relieve stress? I mean im angry/mad every day bc of this shit. I smoke, but not a lot bc well im with my parents. Anyone have any suggestions?

[d112crzy]

work on your car, drink with buddies, sex, working out.

anything that gets your mind off shit. something you enjoy.

you can get high too.

[Fr0z3N]

There's lots of things you could do

1) go do stupid shit with friends
2) join a gym
3) yell at random people
4) start looking for a new job
5) ask for a promotion, lol

could think of more but I'm watching tv lol smallville pwns kkty

[JohnD1079]

work on your car, drink with buddies, sex, working out.

anything that gets your mind off shit. something you enjoy.

you can get high too.

im on probation, so high is out as well as anything that could get me in trouble with the law. I would do that shit both of you guys recommended, but this job is like a wake up to sleep kinda job. Its more if a lifestyle i have to live untill im off probation, and then im out. but untill then with is November, i have to take it, and ive takin it for a month n a half now, and i dunno how much longer i have this job/life.
Its like i have no life except for Saturday nights, which are beet then too around here.

[JohnD1079]

work on your car, drink with buddies, sex, working out.

anything that gets your mind off shit. something you enjoy.

you can get high too.

Also i would love to work on my car, i have a shitload to do, but seeing as that im there pretty damn close to 24/7 and my car is there at the office/garage/warehouse, i really hate the place, and i never get shit done.

When i can pull all nighters working on my car, shit gets done, but i dont really fuck around with i have 1 hr to do some shit, bc knowing id prolly get like shit done id rather try to relax, which is hard.

[owequitit]

Coping with stress and relieving stress are sometimes different.

1) If you can't control it, then don't worry about it. That will probably remove 1/2 of it right there. Shit will always happen, and you will always have to deal with it, but sometimes you just have to ignore it.

2) You shouldn't bottle stuff up. You can deal with it in a lot of different ways, but bottling it up is the worst. If something is that bad, you should say something before it builds up that bad. Then it will more likely seem like no big deal.

I would recommend a good workout regimen and a healthy diet. If you run a couple miles a day, and lift your ass off, you will be amazed at how all that stress just goes away.

3) Have a hobby that is completely seperate from work. Working on cars, crossword puzzles, whatever. Just make sure that it is a mental activity, and when you are doing it, work is completely unrelated. That will help thoughts about work from finding their way in.

4) Meditate. You would be amazed at what closing your eyes for 30 seconds, and then breathing in as deeply as you can, holding it for 3 seconds, and then releasing it slowly will do for your stress. Repeat that for 30 seconds to a minute.

Also, just clearing your mind. I have this problem a lot. For me, I just force myself to concentrate on blackness. Anytime a thought pops up, I focus on blackness. That usually helps you fall asleep, and a good nights rest always helps reduce stress.

5) Go pay for a 1/2 hour massage every so often. It seems hokey, but much of our tension is held in our body's muscles, and having them rubbed out usually makes you feel 100% better.

6) Vacation. Block of an amount of time with NO schedule, and no plans. Then just do whatever you feel like doing. It doesn't have to be an exotic desitination, although it can be. This will help you relax, and prevent you from creating new stress over situations that shouldn't be stressful.

Treat at least one day a week as a mini vacation.

[ExplodingCake]

Listen to Smooth Jazz

[johndenver120]

awh man i wish i had a fam bizz to get into. then i would worry bout what i will be " when i grow up" lol.

if you dont have time for ur car then that means ur bank account is phat!! if thats not true then quit bc ur job w/ the rents sux ASS.

[d112crzy]

5) Go pay for a 1/2 hour massage every so often. It seems hokey, but much of our tension is held in our body's muscles, and having them rubbed out usually makes you feel 100% better.

I almost thought you were gona say go pay for a stripper

[mozzandherb]

Try some type of meditation. Take some timeout whether it be 2 min or 20 min to sit in a quiet place and to listen to your breathing. Breathe in threw your nose and out threw your mouth. Take deep breaths. Make sure to concentrate solely on your breathing. Don't build up stress though, it's unhealthy and it will deteriorate your body if you do not deal with the major stressors in your life. Maybe you should try cognitive therapy. Talk to someone qualified like a doc. They are there to help too. But really try that breathing technique. It sounds kinda dumb, but it will help

[lil_dcb7]

work on your car, drink with buddies, sex, working out.

anything that gets your mind off shit. something you enjoy.

you can get high too.

x2-getting high

Me, I just drive, drive, drive, drive, and drive some more. Listen to that L6 NA beast

[Turbo Dave]

oxycodone
hydrocodone
perkocet
roxicet
hydromorphone
morphiene
xanax
valium
lithium

otherwise:

clean my car (always works)
get a massage
hang out with a girl
get laid if u can im picky unless im drunk
after i clean my car, take some pictures of it.
go running or skateboarding, working out.
play my ears off on the guitar

and of course, street racing (if my car is working right, if now i get pissed)

street racing is my life.

[Turbo Dave]

x2-getting high

weed can sometimes make you paranoid, and just stress more. it works sometimes, as long as the situation is chill

go to a club!

clubs never let you down.

[deevergote]

Look at why you're stressed... figure out the causes. It's not just "work". There are elements of work that stress you out. You've been doing the job, so you're obviously capable (if you aren't capable, then your parents are dumb for keeping you in the position). Approach each problem individually. Find a way to make each issue less stressful.

As owequitit said, there are things that are just out of your control. If you can't change it, accept it and move on. If you can't change it, it shouldn't cause you stress. It's there. Deal with it. If you CAN change it, do it. Even if it means limiting your exposure (a co-worker that you don't like... just get as far away as possible. You can't remove them, but you can remove yourself.)

Don't look at the whole picture, though... that'll just stress you out more. Attack each individual issue one at a time.



As for the other suggestions... drinking, smoking, sex, etc... they're nothing but ways to run from your problems. You get stressed, you drink... you get stressed, you smoke... next thing you know, your escapes have become problems. What do you do to escape those problems?
Do that stuff to enjoy yourself when you're feeling good.


If you can't fix things enough, talk to your parents. Perhaps they can rearrange things so it's not so hard on it. That, or maybe it's time to leave and find another job. If you're miserable, you won't be doing a good job. It's not in their best interest to have you there if you're starting to crack anyway.

[King James]

Dont punch a wall...I punched a few walls last night (more out of emotional shit than stress) but I fucked my knuckle right up...It hurts like a bitch today.