More girl problems.....

[coletrain]

Iv'e been dating this girl for 4 1/2 years. We've been through alot and would love to keep things going. I'm a freshman in college and she's done with her senior year in highschool (1 year apart). So.............she's had this guy friend for many years. He has always liked her but pretended not to. So..I broke our friendship because it was getting out of hand. This year with me being in college, he decides to "capitalize" on the situation. He pretty much writes her all the time. Pretends their going out. Is completely out of his mind and obsessed over her. He didn't go to prom in hopes that something would fall through between me and her. He has said that he wants to fight me, but is too pussy to do it.

My gf has had a hard time dealing with him because I was gone most of the year. Iv'e told her to stay away, not to write him, don't answer his calls. After me telling her to stay the F away, she wont. She says she's with me, but can't seem to say no to this guy.

I work with him during the summer, it's kinda awkward but I make it work. I'm very very low tempered, but I don't know what to do about him. And if I fight him I could lose my job, whether he starts it or I start it. I know she wants to stay with me, but she doesn't know how to take the situation into her own hands................what to do.......?

[floored]

summer is here. sit down and talk to her, tell her it bothers you that she talks to him. try and talk civilized with him see what he thinks or has to say. if he gets an attitude or sumpin n u gotta fuck him up i say go for it but thats how i am. 4.5 yrs is a long time, maybe its time to try some thing new?

[coletrain]

yeah, I have talked to her, she's knows that I hate it when she responds to him. She doesn't really talk to him, it's more.........she responds enough to make him happy. I'm telling her to not respond at all and let him suffer.

I could talk to him though, ( thats a good idea ).

Our relationship between me and her is the best Iv'e ever known. We've only had 1-2 fights in 4 years. And those fights were resolved in 10 mins. For me to break up with her would be like getting a divorce for no reason, lol.

[floored]

ot but i thought you were i akron? you live in ohio and scool in mich or sumpin.....or other way round

[coletrain]

yeah, I go to school in Mich. Live in Ohio

[d112crzy]

just punch him in the face. fuck that bitch ass fucker up. Its already been long enough that he's been bothering your girl and you havent done anything. he wont listen, maybe if you kick his ass he'll listen.

but he will most likely be a pussy about it and press charges. if he's that kind of person, then dont even bother. have one of your friends or some random person to kick his ass.

[Shinobi]

talking is tha best gift god gave to us.

[gloryaccordy]

I mean you might not wanna hear this, but if old girl can't cut him loose maybe you shouldn't give her the choice. What are you a freshman in college? You're right in the midst of the best selection you'll ever have, you might as well start fresh. When a girl has no feelings for a dude she has no reasons to maintain contact with him...I dunno man, that shit doesn't look good IMO.

[fliplyricist1]

^^amen

you probably dont want to hear this, but you need to get out of the relationship. if it's at the point where you HAVE TO tell her to stay away from anyone, then it's just best to move on. i was with a girl who could never say 'no' to anyone for 8 years...shit escalated to the point where I basically wanted to keep her on lockdown and thought it was the right thing to do. Well 8 years into it, I found out she'd recently cheated on me...and she did a damn good job hiding it.

get out of it now...it'll save you a lot of heartache in the future. one thing with women, if they're not happy...they WILL stray. if you're really serious about being with her in the long term, just break up with her and let her know that you feel it's better if you had a little freedom and independence for the time being. if she gets with the other guy and is happier, then it was never meant to be with you and her. if she comes running back because she sees what a good thing she's lost, then mission accomplished. she's fresh outta high school...this is the time when a girl's curiosity peaks.

[coletrain]

You guys make so much sense. No one here tells me this, so thank you!!!

[2.2AZUL]

Iv'e been dating this girl for 4 1/2 years. We've been through alot and would love to keep things going. I'm a freshman in college and she's done with her senior year in highschool (1 year apart). So.............she's had this guy friend for many years. He has always liked her but pretended not to. So..I broke our friendship because it was getting out of hand. This year with me being in college, he decides to "capitalize" on the situation. He pretty much writes her all the time. Pretends their going out. Is completely out of his mind and obsessed over her. He didn't go to prom in hopes that something would fall through between me and her. He has said that he wants to fight me, but is too pussy to do it.

My gf has had a hard time dealing with him because I was gone most of the year. Iv'e told her to stay away, not to write him, don't answer his calls. After me telling her to stay the F away, she wont. She says she's with me, but can't seem to say no to this guy.

I work with him during the summer, it's kinda awkward but I make it work. I'm very very low tempered, but I don't know what to do about him. And if I fight him I could lose my job, whether he starts it or I start it. I know she wants to stay with me, but she doesn't know how to take the situation into her own hands................what to do.......?

sounds like she COULD be f*cking him on the side......................if she can't say no...WELL! she's get'n something behind your back.......you need to put your foot down or move on......................wait till ya'll both punch out from work first and away from the work area before ya'll fight......BUT WHY FIGHT OVER A GIRL.............THERES PENTY OUT THERE just look........i'll be dam if i fight over a dude...............WELL! ....... just tell her how you feel about it..........and you don't like it AT ALL.......once again if she can't say no..........WELL! than she's not very good in cheating......on you.....CAUSE YOU GOTTA PLAY STUPID ABOUT IT AND SHE"S NOT................thats what i think..........AND TELL HIS ASS TOO .......F*CK THAT SH*T.........you need to tell his a** off.........

[d112crzy]

sounds like she COULD be f*cking him on the side......................if she can't say no...WELL! she's get'n something behind your back.......you need to put your foot down or move on......................wait till ya'll both punch out from work first and away from the work area before ya'll fight......BUT WHY FIGHT OVER A GIRL.............THERES PENTY OUT THERE just look........i'll be dam if i fight over a dude...............WELL! ....... just tell her how you feel about it..........and you don't like it AT ALL.......once again if she can't say no..........WELL! than she's not very good in cheating......on you.....CAUSE YOU GOTTA PLAY STUPID ABOUT IT AND SHE"S NOT................thats what i think..........AND TELL HIS ASS TOO .......F*CK THAT SH*T.........you need to tell his a** off.........

this i very true. Ive never faught for a girl, and dont plan to. I have however faught for a girl that was getting beat by her bf(my gf's sister).

[KillerCam282]

*Sigh* how old are you like 18 or 19? Focus on school, you don't need a serious relationship during college.

[d112crzy]

you talking to me fool?

[bruno8747]

Best thing to do is sit down with the guy and your girl for lunch and act like nothings wrong and right after lunch simply ask her to choose one of you. Who ever is not chosen moves on with their lives.