Over the weekend some shit went down at my place and I'd like to get some feedback from you all.
Background -
I live with a girl Heather that I have known for about 7 years. We dated for over a year and lived together when we met. Relationship didn't work but we've been friends since then and have lived together several times at different places.
Issue -
We went to one of our friends weddings Sat. and after it was over, she brought home some dude from the wedding and they ended up fucking. In the past this has not bothered me since we're not together and have both dated other people over the past several years. The guy she brought home was a total sleeze bag and has done so much coke in the past that he4's half burnt out and shit. Maybe it's because this guy was a total assclown, but this time it SERIOUSLY BOTHERED ME! I could hear them fucking cause they were being loud as shit and it literally made me sick to my stomache. I ended up leaving and driving around for a couple hours to cool down and went home. I couldn't sleep and stayed up for over 36hrs. straight. I also couldn't eat and wasn't hungry either. This lasted all the way through Sun. I decided that I was NEVER going to let myself feel like that again. I can't control her actions (nor do I want to) but I can sure control mine so I decided it would be best to move out.
Confrontation -
I also I realized why this made me so upset.......I still love this girl and that's mainly why that shit got me so heated. Also, she can do so much better than the jerkoff she brought home from the wedding and I thought she was better than. I came to the decision that I needed to move out in order for us to still be cool. I lost a lot of respect for her and don't think I can live with her anymore. Mon. I talked to her and let her know that I will be moving out within the next 2 months. Even though I will not be living with her, I'm still gonna pay half of the rent/bills since I'm on the lease. I'm not screwing her over in any way. I don't hate her and we're still friends as far as I'm concerned, but I just can't live with her anymore.
Since I told her on Mon. that I'm leaving, she has been crying no-stop. Even left work early today because she's "too upset to concetrate". She won't stop crying and she won't talk to me anymore. It's day #2 of this now.
Keep in mind that I personally feel that it is in BOTH of our best interest for me to move out. She's not getting hurt in any way and even comes out ahead in the end cause she gets the whole fucking house to her self.
Now that you have an idea of the situation..........
Am I being an asshole?
Am I "in the wrong" at all?
Let me know what you guys (and girls) think
Background -
I live with a girl Heather that I have known for about 7 years. We dated for over a year and lived together when we met. Relationship didn't work but we've been friends since then and have lived together several times at different places.
Issue -
We went to one of our friends weddings Sat. and after it was over, she brought home some dude from the wedding and they ended up fucking. In the past this has not bothered me since we're not together and have both dated other people over the past several years. The guy she brought home was a total sleeze bag and has done so much coke in the past that he4's half burnt out and shit. Maybe it's because this guy was a total assclown, but this time it SERIOUSLY BOTHERED ME! I could hear them fucking cause they were being loud as shit and it literally made me sick to my stomache. I ended up leaving and driving around for a couple hours to cool down and went home. I couldn't sleep and stayed up for over 36hrs. straight. I also couldn't eat and wasn't hungry either. This lasted all the way through Sun. I decided that I was NEVER going to let myself feel like that again. I can't control her actions (nor do I want to) but I can sure control mine so I decided it would be best to move out.
Confrontation -
I also I realized why this made me so upset.......I still love this girl and that's mainly why that shit got me so heated. Also, she can do so much better than the jerkoff she brought home from the wedding and I thought she was better than. I came to the decision that I needed to move out in order for us to still be cool. I lost a lot of respect for her and don't think I can live with her anymore. Mon. I talked to her and let her know that I will be moving out within the next 2 months. Even though I will not be living with her, I'm still gonna pay half of the rent/bills since I'm on the lease. I'm not screwing her over in any way. I don't hate her and we're still friends as far as I'm concerned, but I just can't live with her anymore.
Since I told her on Mon. that I'm leaving, she has been crying no-stop. Even left work early today because she's "too upset to concetrate". She won't stop crying and she won't talk to me anymore. It's day #2 of this now.
Keep in mind that I personally feel that it is in BOTH of our best interest for me to move out. She's not getting hurt in any way and even comes out ahead in the end cause she gets the whole fucking house to her self.
Now that you have an idea of the situation..........
Am I being an asshole?
Am I "in the wrong" at all?
Let me know what you guys (and girls) think
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