Words of advice?

[HenRoc]

Me and my girlfriend decided to take a break from each other. Date other people sorta speak.

I need to get my life in order and focus on my priorities. Now I'm not looking for every single guy in cb7tuner.com to go off on a tangent and say 'wtf mate?' 'Bloody Whore' cause shes neither. Shes sweet kind and very caring towards me she just feels that I need get my life straight.

2 years I was in this relationship, and I didn't help matters by making myself lethagic to help her out with the bills, and well I guess I deserve that. We didn't go out guns blazing BUT we talked about it like civilized human beings.
She knows I still love her with all my heart, and she tells me if its meant to be then it is. I know hurtful things are said when people get mad but I just don't know whats in store for my future.

I was told by her that she'd still want me there as a friend no matter what, and she would do the same thing for me, I guess what I'm trying to say is it sucks going it alone trying to find yourself, just what the hell do I do?

Its a mixed bag really, I just feel really confused what they mean when it is said 'If its meant to be then its meant to be'.

Can someone elaborate? Offer some words of wisdom? I just don't think I can ever find anyone who I can trust like I did with her, she knows me inside and out and even things none of my previous girlfriends knew its also the same with her.

I'm not sad at all really, I just feel really distant from everything right now.

[williamsvt]

some of my friends have been through the same type of experience, and therefore i offer some of my words of wisdom.

if things are meant to be, then most likely you guys will find each other again in love and happy. if its 3 months from now or maybe even 3 years from now, if you guys are meant to be then you guys will both put in equal effort to get back to one another and spark back up a love relationship.

sometimes people just need space. sometimes people just need to experience some more of their younger years and need to broaden their horizons. Maybe your girl is just trying to see what else is out and there and to make sure that you are truely the guys she wants to spend her life with; just a type of reassurance.

don't beat yourself up Henry. This kind of thing is very common to many relationships, and is sometimes very healthy. Often times with time and seperation is makes the heart grow fonder and helps individuals grow to realize what they love and what they miss.

be her friend, dont be overzealous (sp) or jealous if she opts to date around a bit, because it may just be to experience others and to learn that you really are the one of her. you as well should go out and date, and see what the world has to offer.

good luck Henry

[HenRoc]

Thanks Ben. Nah I had a hardtime last night and I tried talking to her but I had tears streaming down my face, I think she realizes that yeah I do love her alot, so she gave me a hug just to comfort me you know.

But we remenisced about the memorable moments we had in the two year span so it comforted me alot. We'll still keep in contact and she agreed to come down and visit me, so we'll see.

[hondagurlex21]

Bigbodylx(chris) and I just took a break I actually moved out. I was gone for about a month. It helped wonders, sometimes a little break is all you need to realize that you want no one else and get back together. We are back together, but that is just us. There may be that chance that she finds or wants something more or different, but if she trully loves you she will realize it. It may take a month or two or maybe less, or maybe longer it just depends. Just give her time and you take time to figuire your self out then you'll both come to your senses. I am sorry to hear about this these things are never easy especially after two years. Good luck with you guys I hope you two can work it out and get back together.

[Gemini]

Ok, my girl and I separated(took some time apart) , see moved out, but stuff just got worst. I realized that I really didnt love the way i thought but still loves me to death. It was hard to tell her that I wouldnt be able to get back together because the feeling isnt mutual anymore. What i'm trying to say is that being seperated can be good and bad. When they say if its meant to be it will be is just simply saying that is both your love is as strong as you guys say and if you really want to be together it will happen soon. Issues never stop lovers from being together, this time will just prove and bring out the truth of everything said before...be strong!