ok yeah she's DEFINITELY a keeper. and awesome present by the way.
Speaking from the other side of the gender fence let me just say this:
I was with someone for 3 years who I loved and would have married had I not woken up one day and realized I was in it for the stability. Yes we were best friends, yes everything was great -- and a very human relationship with little quarrels and all that, but all in all a good relationship. But I had two lives - two sets of friends... he wasn't the go out and party/ have fun/ burn cash on your car type... so i had to cut the ties. It was hard.
As for those of you who say "you never know who they really are until" - well the unfortunate thing is that people beat around the bush too much. I have always been straightforward and 100% me from day one with any relationship - so that, from my end of things i never had to risk giving a wrong impression or ending up with someone I didn't want. Of course, I haven't always been that lucky and have, because of my natural kindness and desire to be non-confrontational, gotten myself into real binds and ended up so far as living out of my car. ...
but my point is. it's not time. when you know, you know. I knew I would marry my husband about a week after I met him - once I convinced myself that everything I wanted had finally come into my life. And we got married after two months. It's been over a year - and we can fight with the best of them - it feels like forever because we've both always been VERY open and honest - none of this "you find out who they really are" bullshit -- and I consider myself incredibly lucky ... although I chose this end for myself, so I also consider myself smart
So if you know it and feel it without question. That you as a person make more sense because you have her... than fucking go for it. But if there is any doubt in your mind, let it go for a little. Talk to her about it if you want. Girls like that are hard to find, and I KNOW you don't want to lose her. So do what you feel is best and by no means compromise your own integrity -- things will be fine - she sounds awesome.
Good luck.
~*~Cass
Speaking from the other side of the gender fence let me just say this:
I was with someone for 3 years who I loved and would have married had I not woken up one day and realized I was in it for the stability. Yes we were best friends, yes everything was great -- and a very human relationship with little quarrels and all that, but all in all a good relationship. But I had two lives - two sets of friends... he wasn't the go out and party/ have fun/ burn cash on your car type... so i had to cut the ties. It was hard.
As for those of you who say "you never know who they really are until" - well the unfortunate thing is that people beat around the bush too much. I have always been straightforward and 100% me from day one with any relationship - so that, from my end of things i never had to risk giving a wrong impression or ending up with someone I didn't want. Of course, I haven't always been that lucky and have, because of my natural kindness and desire to be non-confrontational, gotten myself into real binds and ended up so far as living out of my car. ...
but my point is. it's not time. when you know, you know. I knew I would marry my husband about a week after I met him - once I convinced myself that everything I wanted had finally come into my life. And we got married after two months. It's been over a year - and we can fight with the best of them - it feels like forever because we've both always been VERY open and honest - none of this "you find out who they really are" bullshit -- and I consider myself incredibly lucky ... although I chose this end for myself, so I also consider myself smart
So if you know it and feel it without question. That you as a person make more sense because you have her... than fucking go for it. But if there is any doubt in your mind, let it go for a little. Talk to her about it if you want. Girls like that are hard to find, and I KNOW you don't want to lose her. So do what you feel is best and by no means compromise your own integrity -- things will be fine - she sounds awesome.
Good luck.
~*~Cass
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