My sister died in a car accident last night...

[Leung]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss of your sister. Even though i find my younger sister kind of annoying at times, i would probably be equally distraught if i lost her too.

[ferenza]

Sorry for the loss of your sister bro

I am the only child so i dont know how you are feeling but it must be awful.

Cherish the memories of your beloved sister and all the good times you had together.

Be strong for your parents and be there for the rest of you family.They need you right now more than ever.Your sister may not be of this world anymore you will always carry her in spirit.She will always be with you. I hope you and your family get through this.

PM me if you ever need more ears to listen.More than happy to listen

[h22sparkle]

Man im sorry to hear that man my condolences. Things happen for a reason im sure right now shes watching over you keep your head up man.

[SOHC-FTW]

My condolences, may she r.i.p.

[ninethreecoupe]

Wow, thanks so much everyone. This really means a lot to me.

wow, that is horrible news. was anyone else involved in the accident? last night was st. patty's?

i am sorry theres nothing i can really say, i dont know how it would feel. hang in there.

Yes it was St. Patty's, officially worst day ever. I'm supposed to turn 21 in less than a month but I can't even think about that right now. I just found out tonight that she was the only one involved. Nobody knows why but she swirved off the road and struck a tree which somehow caused a fire. From the sound of it the gas tank went. I just hope more than anything she went as painlessly as possible, but all I can think about is her burning alive in that car. Its killing me and I can't shake it. I want to see the car and see if a ball joint or something on the car failed.

I've never been a huge fan of my sister.
Reading your story and putting us in your place brought glimpses of tears to my eyes.
I'm sorry for your loss. Hopefully it all works out for you.

I feel like if you're around them even every so often it's going to do damage. The blood flowing through both of your veins is more similar than either parents by themselves. It makes me feel good though that it makes you sad because I think it helps to put things in perspective. God dam my brother, sister, and I have been through some damn good times and some really terrible ones but there's no way I ever wished they didn't exist. I guess for those that are only children it's just what you're used to, but we were so close (even though I live three hours from each other) that no matter how far away we were or how long its been since we've seen each other nothing would be different than it is now. I parked at the end of the Pensacola Bridge last night and smoked a philly and put out some revs for her before I left. But I know she's still around. For some reason despite all that happened I went got a $20 scratch off hoping for the number 23 to be one of the lucky numbers (she was born July 23/lucky number). I lost...but then I looked down at the bottom right of the corner and that was the 23rd ticket on the reel. Then later this morning I logged onto xbox live which I haven't done in months. When I logged in I saw I had a message. It was a friend request sent by my sister when she got her xbox a few days ago. It was literally the only thing I had in any of my history. I was freaked out but at the same time somewhat comforted. I love you and miss you Tori


Edit: just found this....
http://millbrook.wsfa.com/news/news/...-year-old-girl

Seeing the site and reading all the official details is too dam much man...I never thought I'd be like this if I ever lost someone.

[Madpol]

really sorry to hear bud....i do know where your coming from and understand your pain to some degree....i lost my dad and granddad a year a part.

hang in there....you have friends on here you can talk to if needed
the last thing she would want or any one would want is for you to go down.
try to celebrate the life she did have and think of all the good things and memories you have of her.

take care

[SilverShadow]

So very sorry also for your loss.
I am much older than most of you,I'm 57. Being that age I see a few pass as I go in life. I've loss grandparents,parents,a brother and my wife...all in the last 10 years. It never is easy to see them gone.
I had been married for 23 years and knew my wife for 5 before that. She had Muscular Dystrophy and even though I worked, I was with her every day of the 23. I saw her slowly go from walking to a walker ..to a wheel chair and then to a bed. She had a leg removed last June and passed away this last October 29th.
I understand your grief and I know the pain you are going through. I know our words are a comfort , but the waves of emotions still well up and you (and I too) cry all the time. We will do anything to have them back. I will only be better when she, not everyone else, tells me she is ok. Hard for me cause of all the medical care I did with her in the bed and now to not be there.
I don't beleive this is a test or has meaning by some great power...what kind of lesson is that at the expense of the victim? I don't need a lesson...I needed her cured or you needed you sister for another day of being with you. I need her more than God does, and your sister needed more time. The Why better be good when we learn it.
I hope in time you find the peace in knowing she is at rest. I can't say after these last 5 months I have ..but I will and I know it. You will too. My heart goes out to you very much for this lost. My tears are for you lost..not mine this time.

[91cbseven]

Very sorry to her about your loss, wishing your family and you the best. Sounds like she was great part of your life and that defines you, surely everyone is thankful for that.

[CB7_JAY91]

Sorry to hear of your loss man, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[Jarrett]

In response to your ending request in your first post I must say that I only wish prayers were cliche.

Regardless of the relationship dynamic losing a family member can be a seemingly devastating experience. It brings about so many questions as to why it happens and her being so young only increases that effect.

Everything on this Earth happens for a reason. In less than 24 hours a group of strangers who have no relation to your life other than the fact that we share an interest in a particular old car have been deeply affected. A brother has a different perspective on his own relationship with his sister, a father has told his daughter how special she is to him and all of us have paused to consider how beautiful of a gift life truly is. Your sister has given us those things and I am truly thankful to her for that.

Going forward take care to ensure that your other family members know how much they mean to you. Strength will be found in your family coming together and developing a support system for each other. While you may feel that seeing them would be too hard right now, consider that they need you more than ever. Hang in there and be strong. For yourself, your family and for Tori.

[oyajicool]

Sorry to hear the loss. I cannot even come close to know what you must be going through.

Hope you'll stay strong.

It could have been a deer or something that startled her enough to veer off the road.

[toycar]

Sorry for your loss man.


I lost my sister in '97. I can relate. Shitty deal bro, and nothing that I can say will make you feel better.


Try and remember exactly that. Nobody can tell you anything that will make you feel better. Be honest with yourself about how you feel, and act accordingly. Its important to focus on yourself when stuff like this happens, and make sure you listen to what your heart is saying. Its OK to mourn. It IS OK to feel bad.


Just remember that its OK to move on too. Give yourself adequate time, but, keep yourself in check too. Shit is depressing. Don't let it get the best of you. Of all things, your sister would not want that. She really wouldn't. Nobody wants that. Don't let that happen.

[ninethreecoupe]

Thanks again everyone. I keep coming back here to read all the responses even though I've read over them two or three times already. I think it was 2006 I lost my aunt and grandpa in the same week same side of the family. As incredibly devastating that was it compares nothing to this. I understand why but after that experience for some reason I thought that I would be ok if something like this happened...I couldn't have been more wrong.

In response to your ending request in your first post I must say that I only wish prayers were cliche.

Regardless of the relationship dynamic losing a family member can be a seemingly devastating experience. It brings about so many questions as to why it happens and her being so young only increases that effect.

Everything on this Earth happens for a reason. In less than 24 hours a group of strangers who have no relation to your life other than the fact that we share an interest in a particular old car have been deeply affected. A brother has a different perspective on his own relationship with his sister, a father has told his daughter how special she is to him and all of us have paused to consider how beautiful of a gift life truly is. Your sister has given us those things and I am truly thankful to her for that.

Going forward take care to ensure that your other family members know how much they mean to you. Strength will be found in your family coming together and developing a support system for each other. While you may feel that seeing them would be too hard right now, consider that they need you more than ever. Hang in there and be strong. For yourself, your family and for Tori.

You're exactly right. Everything about this is wrong and couldn't have come at a worse time. She was having some issues and was about to be the last of us kids to leave the house after she graduated because she had a full ride to Troy University. Not only is she the last to leave the house she's just gone and I can't possibly imagine how my mom is. But I get what you and everyone is saying about the family. I didn't really feel like being like family but that's why I'm going up to Alabama today to see all the family that's coming in. I know we're all going to need each other. The one thing that makes me feel good and proud of my sister is if you were ever around her you would've had a different outlook on life being she was always just so happy and smiling. She affected everyone she came in contact with.

Sorry for your loss man.


I lost my sister in '97. I can relate. Shitty deal bro, and nothing that I can say will make you feel better.


Try and remember exactly that. Nobody can tell you anything that will make you feel better. Be honest with yourself about how you feel, and act accordingly. Its important to focus on yourself when stuff like this happens, and make sure you listen to what your heart is saying. Its OK to mourn. It IS OK to feel bad. /ul*


Just remember that its OK to move on too. Give yourself adequate time, but, keep yourself in check too. Shit is depressing. Don't let it get the best of you. Of all things, your sister would not want that. She really wouldn't. Nobody wants that. Don't let that happen.

I keep breaking down and its not even like I can control it. I know its only the second day although it feels like days since yesterday was so long. I don't know how you still feel but 16 years from now I know I'll still just be sad that she'll never get to do any of the things I've done and will do. I've never been one of those people to "live life for someone else" and maybe that was just because I never experienced what they have but now I just can't help but want to finish college no matter what just because she'll never get to go. Its like I'll go and do all those things and just kinda let her know how it is. But like I said with the lotto ticket thing she's shown she's around and that gives me some comfort. My biggest hurdle will be trying to continue with life and go back to class. I don't know what I'm going to do or how I'll do it but I guess I'll save that for later. Again thanks everyone. I have a deeper appreciation for people in general, sucks that I had to have this happen to understand it but yeah. You guys are awesome.

[tommi]

deeply sorry for your loss. if theres anything i or the community can do just ask. we're here.

[verothacamaro]

My deepest condolences.