What do you do when...

[TheLxAccord92]

Ok heres the story...me and my ex-gf are back together but we are having a long distance relationship..she lives in chicago while i live here in dallas...well about a couple of nights..one of my best friends well call him "dave"..me and my gf wanted to see what he would do if like she imed him online saying that she doesnt want to be with me anymore and how should she tell me..you would have to know "dave" inorder to get the joke...but anyways..i know that they have been talking on and off online that hasnt bother me until last night and i just got online and she imed me and we did the usual i miss you stuff..and then i called her cause we talk on the phone everynight..and she was like i was talking to sajan today and i was like ahh what did you guys talk about...and so she started reading the im..but i noticed that it was getting more deep then just friend chat...note that my gf has never met "dave"..so this was starting to piss me off quick but i didnt say anything...and then i heard her ask if "dave" had a pic of him self...and that right there sent me over the edge..but i still kept my cool on the phone with her...and yet he still went out of his way to get a picture of himself to her...but anywats i got quiet on the phone and she realized somthing wasnt right...she was like why are you so quiet all of a sudden and i was like im tired and even tho it was only like midnight...and she was like oh...and then i was upset that one of my best friends would send her a pic of him knowing that she is my fucking gf...say it was his gf and i was in his position..and she asked me for my pic..first of all i wouldnt do it..i would say i cant send you one because you are one of my best friends gf..and second i wouldnt stoop low to send you a pic knowing that he could possibly get mad..which i did...so back to on the phone..it was quiet for about 2 mins seemed longer and she was like whats wrong...i was like im tired..she was like you want me to let you go i was like ya..and she was like ok give me a call tomm..i was like i will..she said i love you..then i said i love you in a diff way to give her the hint im pissed about somthing...and i didnt even say bye after i said i love you i just hung up..i was so furious with them two...i dunno what to do i mean i care about them both...one being one of my best friends the other being my gf...i need some advice guys...dunno what to do

oh and i forgot to say that when i was on the phone with her that she could tell that i was getting jealous and she was like are you getting jealous and i was like ya a little and then get this she had the nerve to im "dave" and tell him that i am getting jealous of them two..i think thats what made me get real quiet..

-thanks guys

[EdgarCb7]

a best friend wouldn't try to get at at girl! confront his ass, ask him what he's thinking, and then call up your girl and ask her what she's thinking. no bull shit allowed, tell them you want the truth!!!! then you'll have an idea of what to do, cause if your girl wants some other guy whats the point of being with her and hearing those "i love you's" on the phone everynight if they dont really matter, you know what i mean!?

[r0gergcm]

instead of saying i love u in a different way to signal that something is wrong wit u to her,, u should just go out and say exactly wuts bothering u. long distance relationships suk trust me i kno. id say jsut break up until u guys are closer lol... even tho i kno it isnt that easy.

[uncle_el]

and she was like i was talking to sajan today and i was like ahh what did you guys talk about...and so she started reading the im..but i noticed that it was getting more deep then just friend chat...note that my gf has never met "dave"..so this was starting to piss me off quick but i didnt say anything...

is it sajan, or is it "dave"?

high school games are for high school relationships. you tried to see what would happen, and that's the result. for all you know, they could be playing with you.

[rebels]

trust man.. thats what is going to make a long distance relationship work. if she really loves you.. she ain't gonna cheat on you or anything.

just think positive about stuff man.. don't get mad that she is making friends with your best friend. you getting mad will show jealousy and girls sometimes don't really dig that if you get jealous over small stuff..

it will be fine man. just talk to her and pretend like nothing is wrong, and kind of mere on to the subject of your friend. you can be straight up with her and ask her "you would never cheat on me, would you 'insert name here'?" she will know you care man.

having her IM your friend is just kinda asking for it.. when a girl becomes single you know a guy is gonna jump on it. thats how guys are.. so just keep the relationship between you and her.. not your friend.

[TheLxAccord92]

well i triend keeping his name out but that never works..but ya i dont think that she would cheat on him even tho neither of them are close but hey you never know...i thought the whole idea was stupid also but she wanted to do it so im like w/e..but ya im over the whole highschool thing ready to leave to the marines..

[Nycxeracer]

Even though I've studied tons of people and cases in psychology...I still have no evidence why people torture themselves in relationships. It's like, they're clearly not happy, but they just stick around with some incling of hope that the person isn't what they appear to be.

[1badwag]

TRUST!!!!

"if their doing something that they wouldnt do if your looking over their shoulder, they proubly shouldt be diong it."
(its like hidding things behind your back.)

plain and simple!!!

[bracersi]

I can't really speak much for women because my perception is all fucked with them, I got screwed over a few times by women. I can tell you this though, my boys have always been there for me, unlike the many of women I have been with. My friends and I do some fucked up shit to eachother, but then we just beat eachother up, have a beer, and forget about it.

[clarksterdotcom]

seriously thats just un-needed stress on your day to day life man. if you want to make things work be upfront with both of them. ask them whats the deal. if they say they were just messing with let them know you didnt think it was funny. long distance relationships cant make simple things like little disagreements 10x worse. if they are really thinking about sprouting a relationship form their online conversations then thats some bull-ish from your "best friend".

i mess with mah best friend and his girl but totally playfully. i mean they made me the godfather of their son! if hes realy your friend and a true friend he wouldnt have done something he thought was wrong. more than likely he was extending courteousness towards your GF.

but hey what do i know, theres no definite answer to any relationship problems. and if someone says there are then they need to date more! no single situation is exactly the same.

[93accord2dr]

lol i dind't even read that shit. looks likea fuckin eye maze thingy, makin me puke n shit all over. use punctuatooopmn







v is fo victory beaerr

[hondagurlex21]

Even though I've studied tons of people and cases in psychology...I still have no evidence why people torture themselves in relationships. It's like, they're clearly not happy, but they just stick around with some incling of hope that the person isn't what they appear to be.

I never heard someone put it in better words. Relationships are weird.

[HenRoc]

Well I dunno what to say man..if I were you Id call it quits.

Yeah me and my gf fight from time to time and even say words that we dont mean..it happened just the other night and it kinda woke me up...I used to be really jealous when she'd talk about this guy she dated for like 2 months but what she had told me about him was he used her only for sex..theyd go out for dinner on fridays and then go back to his house to sleep with each other.

The funny part about the whole thing was she told me he was like 5'4 and shes 5'7 with a three inch difference and her being tall he hated the fact that she wore heels cause it made him feel stupid or whatever.

I had to see it for myself...so we went and played pool and as much as I hated the fact that they're friends now..I've gotten over that.(Ive learned that trust is the one major role in a relationship..I was so used to getting hurt by other girls...that when I found my gf I swore to myself I wouldnt let anything bad happen.) , I ended up meeting him and ever since then I cant help but laugh...I confronted what made me feel so insecure..and it turned out to be some 5'4 stout guy who bragged about his 'italian' meat..when in actuality my gf told me how it wasnt that big and looked like a pencil...I had never laughed so hard in my life..and for her to even throw in the fact that she faked it with him even made it so much more humorous.

I know my gf would never ever cheat on me because shes so much different than any other girl that I've come across..its not something you can find nowadays..sure theres respectable girls out there but most of the ones I come across back then we're drama and attention ridden.


Dude if this girl loves you as much as she says she does....she wouldn't cheat on you...but then again its a long distance relationship...absence makes the heart grow fonder man....if shes a true woman with true love she'd stick by you even if its long distance.

[Nycxeracer]

Im italian, and she's prollie lieing, cause I got some serious Italian "meat", it exists, in a BIG way.

[Boost_Lee]

MMMmmmm meat ball subs....and no, don't be flattered Nycxeracer

Relationships are definately weird though, its just what love does to you. If you really do care about this person, then confront her about it. Hiding stuff only makes things worse in the long run. If you are truely compatable with her, then you should be able to discuss anything, in a mature manner and hopefully compromise - the basis of a relationship. Love is tough, and must be worked at, but one should not simply judge and assume. Get the facts straight and communicate; that is the key, long distance or not. Once communication is there, then trust can be built as a foundation causing all the little worries and distractions to be worthless. The power of love is strong, so be true and decide if this is worth your efforts, or if this is just a game. My .02

-Burleigh