Sorry about that! I didn't see your previous reply!
Yeah, it definitely sounds like you've really got it tough. Fortunately, it's not a disorder you're treating. At least the source of the stress is external, so that's good. However, taking meds to deal with external stress can eventually lead to more internal issues.
If you can afford it, I would advise going to a real counselor (I'm not... yet.
) Talk to someone that can help you deal with the shit going on in your life without resorting to medication. It will be more difficult and less immediate, but it will be much more effective long-term. Most health insurance will cover "mental health" these days.
Next, and this is the one that you'll have to find a way to afford... talk to a lawyer. It really seems like the source of stress is your wife's ex, and the hold he has on you by way of the kid. There HAS to be some way to revisit the case, especially if you and your wife can prove that moving to TX for better jobs and cheaper living will be to the child's benefit. The jobless ex wouldn't have much sway there, seeing as he can't possibly provide a better life than you and your wife can. If moving to TX is necessary to provide a better life for your family, and he's holding you back for no real reason... with no real income... then a judge may see things differently.
You will need a lawyer, though.
If you want, PM me. I'm glad to listen and offer whatever advice I can... though I can't do as much as I'd like to for someone in your situation. There really is no easy answer, and no pill to make it all go away. The only solution is to attack the root of the problem and correct it. That, or resign yourself to "how it is" and make the best of it. OR, refocus completely... maybe staying local and abandoning TJs for another job, you and/or your wife...
Yeah, it definitely sounds like you've really got it tough. Fortunately, it's not a disorder you're treating. At least the source of the stress is external, so that's good. However, taking meds to deal with external stress can eventually lead to more internal issues.
If you can afford it, I would advise going to a real counselor (I'm not... yet.
) Talk to someone that can help you deal with the shit going on in your life without resorting to medication. It will be more difficult and less immediate, but it will be much more effective long-term. Most health insurance will cover "mental health" these days.Next, and this is the one that you'll have to find a way to afford... talk to a lawyer. It really seems like the source of stress is your wife's ex, and the hold he has on you by way of the kid. There HAS to be some way to revisit the case, especially if you and your wife can prove that moving to TX for better jobs and cheaper living will be to the child's benefit. The jobless ex wouldn't have much sway there, seeing as he can't possibly provide a better life than you and your wife can. If moving to TX is necessary to provide a better life for your family, and he's holding you back for no real reason... with no real income... then a judge may see things differently.
You will need a lawyer, though.
If you want, PM me. I'm glad to listen and offer whatever advice I can... though I can't do as much as I'd like to for someone in your situation. There really is no easy answer, and no pill to make it all go away. The only solution is to attack the root of the problem and correct it. That, or resign yourself to "how it is" and make the best of it. OR, refocus completely... maybe staying local and abandoning TJs for another job, you and/or your wife...
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