casual encounters

[Night Wolf]

well just posted the truth.. a little about myself and that Im looking for a passionate night..blah blah...only interested in fit attractive women.. already got some responses. didn't think it would work... thanks for the advice guys! ill also try plenty of fish then.

"passionate night"

& I hope you didnt say your gunna pay. get the free ones.


also you couldve said your looking for models for adult films. thats legal. & you couldve made money

[DrLove'sKuDang]

As a psychologist with a primary focus on relationships, I probably should stay out of these conversations... I get the stone-age male mentality, and the horny ice-queen mentality... but I don't see the point of it.

I know man, what a buzzkill... I was just making a joke. =(

[Straight Success]

Spoken like a mature adult, Mike.

...It could be the angry coked-up roid-poppin' boyfriend of the girl coming after you. Who knows...

I know this is hypothetical, and not directed directly towards me, but he better have a big ass gun, a good ass aim, and he better kill me. Yes, I'm that tired and fed up. Period. I'm at peace with my God, so...

Also, I agree on the sex part. Once a person reaches a certain age, his/her needs are different, refined to sota' speak from maturity. This is what I seek in my women friends, but it seems like they are blinded by shallowness. I think I can understand somewhat though. However, it's still difficult.

[deevergote]

"passionate night"

& I hope you didnt say your gunna pay. get the free ones.


also you couldve said your looking for models for adult films. thats legal. & you couldve made money

That's true... you could always do porn. I also have a friend that's done that... the dude is a walking libido.

[rexload]

Remember, ask for pics with names and date stamps. Dont want no dudes.

This is very good advice. I got a response with a picture but I'm a little skeptical at this point. I don't know about a date stamp as that can be easily photoshopped... so I guess I'll just hope for the best and only agree to meet them in a crowded place just at first to be safe.

Paying for sex, or even offering to pay for sex, is illegal. Soliciting prostitution. Don't risk it. Cops do look for people doing such things, and if you proposition an undercover cop, you're fucked. Marked as a sex offender for the rest of your life.

Plenty of girls are looking for casual encounters. Craigslist, okcupid, plentyoffish... they're there. My friend and his wife have an open relationship. Both of them regularly find people on those sites. Of course, they're both attractive and charismatic, and can find someone to hook up with damn near anywhere they go.

Personally, I don't understand meaningless encounters. I'd much rather have something with emotion attached. Without that, a woman is nothing but a sex toy that is a potential source of drama, disease, or offspring...

Thank you for the heads-up. I knew prostitution was illegal in the US but I never really thought about how strict the laws are or whether it is easy to get in trouble. After hearing this I am definitely not going to risk it.

True, but it beats the alternative.

Me personally, I'm tired of trying to treat women likes queens and having them taking everything for granted. I've spent money, time, energy (helping them with their women insecurities) only to have it constantly bite me in my ass.

I finally said fuck it, I'm fed up. This led to me having a conversation with my aunt, and I told her I'm going back to treating women like shit 'cause to me that's the only thing I see, and I repeat, I see that really makes them happy (although they complain and look unhappy). I know it sounds stupid, but that's all I see.

Low and behold, I have women constantly text me now after I curse them out, and ignore their texts. WTF. This ain't fun, but " a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do!"

I had this old friend from high school. We reconnected. She told me how she always liked me, and she was treated like a dog, blah, blah, blah. As a friend I was there for her, trying to be the nice guy. 1st date cancelled. I was still nice. Second, cancelled again. I then invited her to church and she accepted. A few day before church, I text her "am I still picking you up for church?" No response for three days.

I get pissed at this point, and send the most ignorant (I try not to judge, but she brought it out of me), most judgmental , hurtful text you can think of. Was this my true character? No. Guess what? She responded right back.

For any women reading this, I want you to understand my response!

"Do you see what I had to text you to get a response out of your ass. Think about that. You ignored all of my texts about church church, but you responded to this bullshit. Hopefully you get the picture I'm painting!"

I understand the frustration. Although, I never treat women in a way they wouldn't want to be treated. That is why I would rather be honest with them than try to play them and break their heart and cause drama.

Yeah, but being a jerk to get a girl's attention is one thing... that's just the psychology of the chase. The same goes for chasing after girls that aren't all that interested in you. THAT is a waste of time and money.

Just looking for casual sex is another thing, though. The purpose of taking a girl out on a date isn't just getting laid... at least it shouldn't be for anyone over the age of 17...
If you're an adult, and all you want is sex, you can simply find another adult that wants the same thing. If a guy and a girl just want a random hookup, they can be open about it. Do it, and be done with it. If you have to beat around the bush to get to doing the deed, then there's a serious maturity issue involved... and that will lead to drama. It could be one of the two crying because they got unnecessarily emotionally attached. It could be the angry coked-up roid-poppin' boyfriend of the girl coming after you. Who knows...

If you just want sex, find a girl that just wants sex. Don't pay for it. Don't make a big deal of it. Just be safe.
However, don't expect any feeling of fulfillment. Meaningless sex is nothing more than complicated masturbation. When you're done, and your brain returns to its normal state, your first thought will be "ugh... now I'm all sticky..."

Very well said about finding a woman who wants the same thing and not beating around the bush. I absolutely agree that there is little feeling to fulfillment and it can be compared to masturbation... BUT it is hard being single, especially when you are physically active, you always want to fuck.. and when you are start getting boners at work, it may not end well... should you need to get up to say hello to someone ...

"passionate night"

& I hope you didnt say your gunna pay. get the free ones.


also you couldve said your looking for models for adult films. thats legal. & you couldve made money

No I didn't say I'm going pay as I realized it is a terrible idea.
As for models for adult films... that's an interesting idea... so essentially I would pay them and setup a few cameras in the room making it seem like I am making a porn?

[Straight Success]

I understand the frustration. Although, I never treat women in a way they wouldn't want to be treated. That is why I would rather be honest with them than try to play them and break their heart and cause drama.

I'm honest with every woman I meet. You have to remember, I'm trying to date black women (although I'll date anyone woman who makes me happy). They are the hardest women to deal with on the planet. A black woman will call you a pussy in a N.Y. minute, and leave you standing in the same spot you were in 3 minutes ago looking dumb.

I swear, I've tried my best, tried to give my all to be a good, honest man, and when you're nice, good, and honest, they portray you as weak.

[HenRoc]

You know Straight Success (bro forgive me but I FORGOT your name.. ) nailed it on the head with his posts.

I tried the whole dating scene I had more hook ups than relationships, that when it came to a second or third date..it would consist of dinner and then just straight to the bedroom.

Only ONE refrained herself..she liked me allot but I lived too far away for her and it was a shit situation because I liked her allot as well.

[LadyG]

The problem seems to be messing with women who play games in the first place.
Women who know what they want don't do that.

Guys need to understand that the whole of the American Culture encourages woman to be game playing, money chasing, shallow chicks. It creates the problems yall have to deal with. Think about that the next time you watch Jersey Shore. (lolz)

I advise my guy friends to not even begin to date a woman who seems luke-warm, or like they are playing games.
And for gods-sake, if they seem to like being treated badly, RUN AWAY.
Those are the kind of women that need, and create, the drama in their lives.

[Straight Success]

The problem seems to be messing with women who play games in the first place.
Women who know what they want don't do that.

Guys need to understand that the whole of the American Culture encourages woman to be game playing, money chasing, shallow chicks. It creates the problems yall have to deal with. Think about that the next time you watch Jersey Shore. (lolz)

I advise my guy friends to not even begin to date a woman who seems luke-warm, or like they are playing games.
And for gods-sake, if they seem to like being treated badly, RUN AWAY.
Those are the kind of women that need, and create, the drama in their lives.

I don't know how it is where you are, but here in Philly, as well as New York, and Miami, that's how the women are. No offense, but you may be ignorant to this concept.

EDIT: We are very diverse, but this is what I witness from women everyday.

[HenRoc]

There is no happy medium. If you're too nice..it's a bit much. If your too much of an asshole? That's a bit much too.

I guess there HAS to be a fine balance.

[Straight Success]

The problem seems to be messing with women who play games in the first place.
Women who know what they want don't do that.

Guys need to understand that the whole of the American Culture encourages woman to be game playing, money chasing, shallow chicks. It creates the problems yall have to deal with. Think about that the next time you watch Jersey Shore. (lolz)

I advise my guy friends to not even begin to date a woman who seems luke-warm, or like they are playing games.
And for gods-sake, if they seem to like being treated badly, RUN AWAY.
Those are the kind of women that need, and create, the drama in their lives.

See what I mean. It's clear to the public.

[LadyG]

Hip hop is not where I would go for dating advice.
But you rock on with that.

Having visited/spent time in ALL of the cities you named- I am not ignorant of the centers of the media fueled bitch-fest epidemic.

What I am, is saying "You been fuckin wit the wrong type o'bitches".

NY, Miami or Fuckin Fargo, these things are true.
Nice women exist....



mostly as single mothers....



but they DO exist.

[Straight Success]

Hip-hop is an form of expression; an art for. It's music. People sing, rap, write what they see. It's translated into art just like the Mona Lisa. People paint (a metaphor for writing) what they see and feel.

Mary J. is just as big and popular as Justin Timberlake, Alanis Morissette, Mariah Carey, etc.

She sings for the people, about the people, and their experiences. She gives the truths.

[ChIoVnIdCa]

what websites are good to meet women for casual encounters? and can i get arrested for offering money for this?

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[ChIoVnIdCa]

Nice women exist....



mostly as single mothers....

ummm.... ya ok