Religion

[DJ metadelic]

I think the real question is -
Can their love compromise with their religions?
And can their religions compromise with their love?

this.

[Macaqueistrong]

I honestly think it's a parental issue.

If the two people fell in love knowing that they were of different religious background, upbringing, and beliefs then love took higher priority than religion.

The parents on the other hand could be extremely devoted and demand that the ceremony be done to meet certain religious standards that differ from the spouses parents that could want the ceremony to be done at their standards.

I've personally noticed that with each generation an amount of devotion towards the religion they were raised in is lost. It is usually the parents that put a strain on the relationship.

[illestatus]

that is a tough call as when or if they get married, its going to put both of the parents in a tough decision as to which church they will take their kids to.

[f22a4bandit]

I don't think that it'd work out with a religious ceremony. You're asking too much from both of them, and marriage is about love, not making the in-laws happy.

I personally wouldn't renounce my faith just to make my in-laws happy. Asking me to renounce my Christian faith would be like asking for peace in the Middle East; it ain't going to happen.

[19dabeast85]

Frankly, both of those religions disallow un-equally yoked marriage covenants (no marrying outside of same religion) so I would assume that neither person is devout in their belief and they probably should have a non-religious marriage ceremony.

Why don't you just ask them what it's gonna be?

[HondaB18]

Orthodox Jews are very strict. I'm amazed they're supportive of the relationship at all, even. That's a tough situation.

Honestly, they need to do what THEY want... and the families will need to get over it.

Tell me about it! He doesn't use any technology on Sunday. Separate utensils, sinks and plates for food. Very different lifestyle, it seems like everything revolves around his religion.

Do you think people see it as, love < organized religion?

Isn't that kinda contradictory?

I think the real question is -
Can their love compromise with their religions?
And can their religions compromise with their love?

Some people think a CB7 is the best car in the world while some think it is the worst. Everyone thinks differently, it makes the world interesting.

And yes I think that was what I was trying to say. Although you wouldn't ask a girl what her religion is and reject her because it isn't the same as yours.

Say that the girl does convert, wouldn't people see that as something done just for the ceremony? Which it does seem so.

Why don't you just ask them what it's gonna be?

The guy hasn't proposed yet and this is whats stopping him at the moment. He loves both the girl and his family. He doesn't want his girl to convert but at the same time he doesn't want to convert himself. They met without all the drama and eventually things got serious and they started going out behind their parent's back.