I need some help advice desperately

[CrazyHondaOwnR]

Ok so I don't want to burden my buds here on the forum so I'll make it short and sweet ..., I'm going through a really hard time ... Me and the wife split ... Im fighting with her for joint custody of my daughter i havnt seen her ( daughter) in two months and ive missed her 1st birthday and her first steps ...... Needless to say i am very depressed and need to speak to a psychiratrist desperatly ...I'm drowning in atourney fees and legal fees and can not afford prof. Help



So here's the big question does anyone know of any charities who could help me get some help or some kind of a low income mental health program .... Or even some good ol advice ..... I am not suicidal and bc if that alot of the national help lines will not help me



Again any advice from Simone who has gone through this or suggestions on how or where to find help is unbelievably apriciated





Posted using my iThumbs on my iPod sitting in mcdonalds so pls exuse typos

[visualpoet]

With three kids, a step daughter and a divorce under my belt, I feel for you. It's hard to give advice without knowing why she's fighting shared custody. The only reasons I can see for her to do that are:

She's afraid you're a potential danger to your daughter
It's not really your daughter and she sees no need for you to be a part of her life.
She's just a bitch and is trying to make you hurt.

I will say that you should pray, and try to find a church you like. When they have the invitation to pray, go down front and pray. You will probably have someone offer to pray with you, and just the simple act of unburdening yourself will be some relief, and may lead you to help.

It's a shame when the child(ren) get stuck in the middle of adult problems.

[Gemini]

I went through a similar situation not too long ago...i know it's depressing. I was depressed for months, alienating myself from life, friends and family but believe when I say it will get better.

the only place I know you can get free help or advice is at a church bro, try it out.

[deevergote]

Church can be a dangerous place, though. Priests and other religious figures are not trained to give proper counseling in many cases. They WILL be a sympathetic ear, and a positive influence, and that alone may be a help... but if you're seriously depressed, you might need someone with more training. A psychiatrist is a medical doctor, and they VERY often rely on medications... honestly, unless you have a disorder that NEEDS medication, don't even look in that direction. Meds are expensive, temporary, and can often cause more problems than they fix.

You need a counselor. A psychologist. Someone that can help you pick up the pieces of your thougts and emotions, and put them back together in some way that makes sense.

Do you have health insurance? If so, mental health is covered under most plans. Look into it. Call the company. See what is covered, and they'll most likely even be able to tell you where to go.

If you have no insurance, check local universities. Chances are, you'll be able to talk with a graduate student that is pursuing a degree in counseling, and everything will be monitored by a professor. Just like anything in the healthcare field, if you go to the schools where they teach people how to do something, you can often get the attention you need for a fraction of the cost... because they need you as much as you need them!



Depression is a hard thing to fight through. I've been functionally depressed for the past 3 years... it's scary, because I don't even realize it. I'm not sad. I'm not suicidal. I just have a chemical imbalance that I can physically FEEL change when I force myself to be motivated. It's not something that just goes away.
Looking for help is the first step, and one that very few people are smart enough to take (I never sought help outside of friends and family myself... which is probably why I'm still dealing with it to some extent... and I'm actually going to BE a counselor, so I should know better!)



Good luck, man. You know we're here for you, regardless of what happens. We can't tell you what to do, and none of us are qualified to really give you the help you need... but we're here to listen and offer a sympathetic ear nonetheless!

[CrazyHondaOwnR]

@ visualpoet
I think the sx dosnt want me in my daughters life bc of how much she dislikes me ... I mean I think I was a good father I fed her made her bottles played with her lol taught her how to say " toe"although it sounded more like go... I changed diapers I don't see a ligitamite reason for my ex to want to keep me from my daughter other than simply being mad at me ( but I'm biased so who knows ) it's just really hard not having daddy's little girl look up and smile at me when I come home or pointing at her big toe and yelling " go"

@ gemini
I was or am a catholic I was very active in my younger years but bc of a racist priest at my catholic school I just kind of lost my way never been back to church Be honest I don't even know how to approach a congregation to become a member


@ deeve

I definatly agree with u about the drugs I was given alot of medication in my earlly teens for add and the like and to be honest it made me feel bad kind of disconnected from all my friends

I need someone who I can talk to like a counselor or psycharitrist ... I have no health insurance and a limited income between lawyer fees and court fees and child support ( not that I'm complaining about the last one ) I really thank you for your suggestion for looking at local universities for help I never thought to look there Marshall uni. Is really clos and they have a HUGE medical department wich includes mental health I'm going to try and call them tomarrow



I appreciate all three of your replys I really do ... I'm in a bad spot right now and it helps just being able to get it out ... It just seems everything just came at once this , my moms breast cancer early this year the split with me and the wife and my dad just found out her may gave to have surgery for a blockage in his heart .... It's just hard ya know


Not to get long winded or sappy cuz this is already a long post but it makes me feel good to be a member here it really feels like a family especially those of us who have been here a while

[crusto2k3]

If you're low income, look into the city or state level of health for help. There should be something along those lines.


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