i need your help :(

[rebels]

i really need some motivation. i'm so crushed right now it's not even explainable. i can't even eat. i don't know what to do.

so some of you know the girl i've been talking with and such. she was my only happiness. being in florida i'm so homesick and i miss my friends, parents, and don't have my honda here. that's okay though because i need to keep my head in the books, but thinking about jennifer made everything bad just fade away.

i met her online through a racing forum and we talked for a few weeks and when i went to indianapolis to trade some stuff.. we met up on december 8th (my mom's birthday). things were cool.. she seemed so awesome so i had to make more trips back.

i went back on december 16th and we hung out all day, went to the movies, layed in her bed.. it went so perfectly and i knew she was really into me. well, she was acting weird after that night because she knew i was leaving for college again and didn't want to get attached.. but we still had to hang out.

i went back on january 4th with my friend from here (92accordTS), i just showed up and suprised her. she was so happy to see me and all my worries and all that went down the drain when she hugged me. we didn't have much time because alan had to go home and get his daughter.. but i told her i promised i would come back the next night, which was my last night in ohio. she kissed me when i left and it sent me to heaven.

well, i went back the next night. we had an ice storm earlier in the day and it knocked down the phone lines and her cell was all messed up. i drove around her city for about an hour and a half trying to get in touch with her.. and i finally did. my eyes were watering because i didnt want to leave at all.. but we went to the store then back to her house so it was cool.

i was planning on leaving around 11pm so i could get home at a decent hour for the long drive the next day.. well we laid in her bed for hours.. just cuddling, kissing, and talking. there was no way i could leave her so i stayed there for a while. i didn't leave until 5:30am, when i was leaving at 7:30am for florida. i asked her if she would give me the chance to be her boyfriend and show her i'd treat her so good.. she said yeah.

i got to florida.. she text's me all the time saying she misses me and calls me in the middle of the night and that stuff. well i get a text from her this morning at 3:30am saying this..

"adam, i want ot tell you something but you have to promise not to get mad and still be my good friend, because i love ya homie."

"well, i met this guy in november. he left for the military. we talk every day, i pretty much fell for him when we met. i'm in love with him, and i tried to fight it."

"i liked you adam. i want to be great friends. i care for you, i can't deny what i feel for him. don't hate me, i don't wanna lose you! your a great guy."

my only happiness is gone. i left at 3:45am and just went to stay at this ladys house i know. shes always there for me.. but i'm so hurt inside and i have never met a girl like jennifer. she is just like me, races, knows her stuff about cars, it's just too good to let go.. and i don't know what to do.

i've been crying for hours now.. i'm lost.

[rebels]

sorry for it being so long too.. but i had to explain everything.

[arrozburner]

it sucks when shit like this happens but you know what, shes not going to be the only chick that shares similar interests as you and although its hard to find a chick thats into cars, they are out there and like the old saying goes, there are plenty of fish in the sea. you should focus on school right now and once youre done with that, then you could focus on finding the right chick for you. youre still young and although it is hurting right now, im sure you'll find someone good soon but just remember to take it slow.

[AccordWarrior]

She's not the only one out there. Trust me, I can completely relate to what's happened to you...but you gotta be stronger than her. You can't let one girl crush you like this...I know I sound hypocritical saying this because its happened to me, but you gotta bounce back. Everything happens for a reason. There's a reason you guys weren't meant to be. You did everything in your power to be with her, that's all you can do. The only way you can look at it, is its her loss.

Hit me up on AIM if you need/want to talk more.

[sothea_sun]

damn dude, i feel for you. first off, i thought that it was pretty shitty that she had to TEXT you that instead of talking to you up front about it. goes to show you that when you were with her, she didn't know what she wanted. if she was smarter and faithful, then she would have inform you way before yall met up. to me dude, she not worth it. i know it might seem harsh, but you dont need all that unnecessary burden; especially if she went on almost a whole month without telling you. sounds to me that she was playing him with you. how would you feel if you went to the military and she snuggled/kissed some guy on her bed behind your back? she’s right about one thing though: you are a great guy. people like you don’t need to be taken advantage of and she did it exactly that. she innocently took you in and you came out like this.

take it or leave it, but my advice is this: if you still have feelings for her, let her know hard and fast. if she doesn’t feel the same way, then you have to prepare for the worst and it was never meant to be.

[Blue Honda Girl]

Wow...I was in a similiar situation about a week and a half ago. Except I was the one being dumped. But I found out that he had been messing around with his ex...what a jerk..anyway. Were you ever aware of this other man she is in love with? Have you talked with her since then? Just listening to this story...you are (or were) in a long distance relationship, yes? Honey, those things don't last...or don't last too long. Honestly, I think it's kind of cruel that she'd be all loving around you then just break your heart like that! Maybe she was trying to move on with you in order to get over military-boy? Obviously she couldn't do that. IMO, it's just best to move on. Just get out there and have fun. Some good car commercial music on a sunny day with the windows down and sunroof open, driving like hell does it for me.

We should hook up. We've both been dumped, both been broken hearted, and have a love for CB7/9's. I know my cars, love talkng about em, and enjoy driving them! Plus, I'm a Honda, JDM freak! lol! And I'm slightly closer...in Louisiana! Anyway, just trying to cheer you up, man! Believe me, I thought my only happiness was gone as well, but I learned to just get over it and move on with my own life. I couldn't keep worring about someone who was seeing someone else (and possibly still loved that person), you know?

I hope everything works out for you! Come on down for Mardi Gras, we'd have a good time!

[sothea_sun]

there you go

[HenRoc]

Wow...I was in a similiar situation about a week and a half ago. Except I was the one being dumped. But I found out that he had been messing around with his ex...what a jerk..anyway. Were you ever aware of this other man she is in love with? Have you talked with her since then? Just listening to this story...you are (or were) in a long distance relationship, yes? Honey, those things don't last...or don't last too long. Honestly, I think it's kind of cruel that she'd be all loving around you then just break your heart like that! Maybe she was trying to move on with you in order to get over military-boy? Obviously she couldn't do that. IMO, it's just best to move on. Just get out there and have fun. Some good car commercial music on a sunny day with the windows down and sunroof open, driving like hell does it for me.

We should hook up. We've both been dumped, both been broken hearted, and have a love for CB7/9's. I know my cars, love talkng about em, and enjoy driving them! Plus, I'm a Honda, JDM freak! lol! And I'm slightly closer...in Louisiana! Anyway, just trying to cheer you up, man! Believe me, I thought my only happiness was gone as well, but I learned to just get over it and move on with my own life. I couldn't keep worring about someone who was seeing someone else (and possibly still loved that person), you know?

I hope everything works out for you! Come on down for Mardi Gras, we'd have a good time!

Adam dude your an awesome guy you have the phatest whip...and Im truely sorry to hear about this, yeah she shouldve told you up front and be truely honest..because honesty is the best policy..she didnt want you to hate her..but this is as low as it gets..if a girl cant get her head straight and tell guy how she truly feels then whats the point of ever being a friend to her.

Looks can be decieving at times man.


But check it out, this girl from Louisana is willing to help you out

[rebels]

Thanks for the responses. I thank God that he's given the people here the ability and soul to help people out when they need it. You cant really learn unless you have people there for you.. and I'm still learning. I am only 20 years old, but ive been through so much in the past that I don't want to be like most of the college guys around here and sleep with every chick I can, get drunk every weekend, and smoke as much weed that I can.

I need to be friends with her because throwing it all away would just make it worse. I need to just lay it all on the table, anyways shes moving to Florida with her parents in June and shes going to be close. Sometimes you dont realize what you have until its gone.. this guy shes dating now or whatever lives in Hawaii.. well is stationed there and who knows if that would work. I will treat her like a princess.. I could never be mean to a girl or cheat on her..

she called me yesterday at like 6:00pm and asked when i was coming home because she wanted to make sure we hung out and all. i was so psyched about seeing her, but i dont even know if i want to now.

heres some pictures of her for those who don't know.. quite a few people here know of her.. but yeah anyways.. thanks a lot people. you guys/girls mean the world to me and knowing i have people here to support me.. i cant be anymore thankful and blessed.

[93accordexcoupe]

dont worry too much about man, i know ur upset and all but i will work out. like arrozburner said its hard to find girls that are into cars is true, but, like my GF she learned from me, she got really into it , and now she can tell all different kinds of parts apart and all that stuff, just keep ur head up dude, u'll be ok.

[rebels]

oh.. and she told me about this guy. they dated previously before i met her.. but i guess he dicked her over and i never go for girls that are taken because i dont want them doing that to me.

i just need to some how keep a good friendship going.. so she knows i do care for her and everything. shes not a bitch or slut or anything by any means.. shes the nicest girl ive ever met.. but sometimes emotions take over you and you have to let the person know. im glad she let me know about this instead of just leading me on and on and eventually hurtin me more.. maybe she'll realize shes leaving something behind

[ace22]

So how old are you bro, tampa isn't that far away and i know lots of chicks i could hook you up with... this is the way you ought to look at things. did you bring something great to the relationship you had? if the answer is yes, then fuk her, it's her loss she'll be missing that for years to come and very possibly when her man gets his genitalia blown off by a hand grenade... You're in like flynn... just keep your head up and realize that things really do happen for a reason, It took me a long time to learn not to fight Fait (god if you believe in a higher being) but, when you give it all up and just go with the flow wonderful things seem to happen.. be confident go to the bar and start your recovery as soon as you bring that blonde home.

[rebels]

i'm 20.. i'm basically over her. i mean i still think about her a lot but nothing like it was a week ago when she broke it off with me. she will sometime realize what she left. honestly i won't mind being single for when i bring my car down.. and i'm in florida for college again so i am here to have fun also.

[lowoctane]

i'm 20.. i'm basically over her. i mean i still think about her a lot but nothing like it was a week ago when she broke it off with me. she will sometime realize what she left. honestly i won't mind being single for when i bring my car down.. and i'm in florida for college again so i am here to have fun also.

hell yeah man, forget her lol, hopefully some big parties will be going down, the ones we've been going to are little gatherings..and i dont know how you pull so much with your car, anyways get it down here! hahah....

[alb_accord]

u cried wtf<<<< what happpen to be real man. wtf dude lmao
hey sometimes things work out and sometimes things don't. get over it
now that u don't think much about her<<<<< that means that its not love dude so its ok. it can be worst. imagine if u in love and u get dummped. how bad would that be<<< no reason to leave anymore.
anyways,,, just chill with her. be like before. be a good friend to hear and show her who u really are. girls tend to do that. huck up with someone when they like someone else(and they bitch when we cheat on them)
so be nice to her eventhough she said what she said over a text mess(isn't life a bitch). show her who u really are.
yo man u are in sun shine state. have some funn down there. go out with the member for the site down there. lol
and if u can't do it then let me know. i make sure to transfer at that school(if they accept someone from communty with a 2.4 gpa lmao)
there are plaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaanty of girls around dude. have funn. u are tooo young for a serious relationship.