I'm Dating a new girl after being with another for 4 years...need some help here.

[91AccordLX]

hey guys, as the title states.....i had a girlfriend for 4 years, we just broke up last october. you know we were together all through high school, we moved out when she graduated....but then thats when it starting going bad, when we moved out. you know she changed A LOT!!! she got her labret pierced, was hanging around druggies all the time...shit calling this one dude like 300 times in ONE month, and that was when we we're together. but anyways a lot more junk happened in the 6 months we we're moved out, so we broke up on october 29th, 2004. and since then i didnt see any other girls here until two weeks ago. a friend hooked me up with her, shes awesome, shes intelligent(its nice talking to her intelligently and not having her say what, or huh? all the time like my ex g/f) and she freeking gorgeuous as hell, hell of a body.( cuter then my ex) shes a good girl, no drinking, no smoking...all the things i like. because i odnt drink or smoke. so thats that.......and well her being the only other girl besides my ex that i like, its hard for me to make moves when i want too....sure we have made out, held hands, just all the stuff normal people do before they go out. i know she likes me a lot, and i like her a lot. but im not sure how to ask her out, i dont want to just be like hey want to go out? thats just ridiculous. and ive only had one other girlfriend and i dont recall how i asked her out, being it was 4 years ago. so like how would you guys suggest asking her out? yes i know this is a stupid question, but im not a ladies man a P-I-M-P, so its different for me. im going to her house in about an hour, we're gonna watch some movies just like lastnight. hopefully when i get back from her house tonight you guys will have posted some replies to help me haha...see ya, Chris

[NoSloCB7]

What up pimpolicous? LOL.....J/K......Alright let me dive into this...when you say "ask out" do you mean go out on a date? or the high school "will you go out with me? If it is the second, then my advice is..don't say it like that. Just keep dating her, being a nice gentleman, hanging out with her, and soon it will be understood that you are a couple. Don;t dive right into the couple mentality right away.you may scare her away. Just take it easy and enjoy yourself. If she is as awesome as you say she is, you will have no probelm hanging on to her. Good luck bro..I hope my advice makes sense (if not, feel free to bust my balls..lol) Again...Good luck!!

[jdmishcb7]

^^^ Speaks the truth

For the most part, I have noticed that doing what fushigi and co. mentioned is entirely more effective than popping some sort of question. if the girl feels like you're coming on too strong or tying her down too much then she might bolt.

if you do, however, have the feeling that you need to hear something concrete to establish a relationship, then i would just talk to her about how you honestly feel, and how she makes you feel. then that could easily transpire into where each of you see the "relationship" going, and whether or not you guys are in a committed relationship or not.

however i really wouldn't advise this move especially since you've been only dating for 2 weeks. speaking from personal experience, it seems as though you are more comfortable in a relationship than not, since a large portion of your adult life has been in a relationship. you may be prone to see this girl in a higher light than she may be (or maybe not, she may very well be the girl you marry) just because you have a feeling in your subconcious that says you'd feel a lot better if you had her. but i donno, i could just be dumb and know nothing.

[SoySauceCb7]

What up pimpolicous? LOL.....J/K......Alright let me dive into this...when you say "ask out" do you mean go out on a date? or the high school "will you go out with me? If it is the second, then my advice is..don't say it like that. Just keep dating her, being a nice gentleman, hanging out with her, and soon it will be understood that you are a couple. Don;t dive right into the couple mentality right away.you may scare her away. Just take it easy and enjoy yourself. If she is as awesome as you say she is, you will have no probelm hanging on to her. Good luck bro..I hope my advice makes sense (if not, feel free to bust my balls..lol) Again...Good luck!!

Fushigi what are you talking abotu your wrong 100% wrong, you need to roll up and be like hey baby you wanna ride? HAHAH j/k j/k but take her to diner hang out and eventually someone will ask you a couple or somethign and you will realize that you two are a couple ENJOY! Wooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooot
heres a convo i had with 92accorddx abotu how i never got any in my cb7 but i got mad &^$$* in my truck.
oySauceCB7: so i be holding her hand while i drive
SoySauceCB7: she gets all happy
SoySauceCB7: :P
SexyGigilo6: aww
SoySauceCB7: HAHA
SoySauceCB7: i hit a stop sign we french
SoySauceCB7: a little touchy
SexyGigilo6: Jan Khan = love machine
SoySauceCB7: LOL

[dwf137]

yea man.. just take it as it comes.. no real need to make it 'official'... Just chill with her all the time, and then after a little while, talk to her about how you feel..

i'm in the same situation as you right now. Just broke up with my gf of 3 years. Things just weren't the same anymore, and I wasn't enjoying her company at all. Got a new girl now, and she's freakin awesome. We never officially asked each other out, but we've titled ourselves as 'dating' after a few conversations..

[aero]

its weird i swear.. i have been out of a 1.5year relationship for... about a year now i think. But it seems like everyone just came out of a long term relationship, and is like whoa.. what do i do now. Anyways, im tired.

[Blue Honda Girl]

Just take it easy and hang out with her for a few more days/weeks. Who knows, maybe she'll ask you out! Well I just tell you now we girls don't like being the chaser. We LOVE being chased after! But some girls are different....I hate it when my dates pay for everything and chat with them about cars! (yeah, I'm wierd).

But when you do ask....I like it when guys take me out late at night for some coffee...or the traditional dinner and a movie works fine too....
She sounds cool though, good luck!

[SoySauceCb7]

blue honda grrl can i get some pics Wooooot

[phatdoughnut]

i think as your relationship goes along you will just be like, well i guess this means we are going out? well cool sweet..

I do agree that its not the best to just be like "will you go out with me" but then again, what if some other pimp comes up to her and asks her that and then she dumps you. Jump on it before some one else does.. LOL

i would just straight up ask her if she wants to my girlfriend.. who gives a fuck, the worst thing she can do is say no.. hahahaha, and plenty of girls have said that :P

[91AccordLX]

hey there guys, and girl. i just got back from her house like 15 minutes ago. we just hung out for like 5 hrs, we went to best buy and bought napoleon dynamite(she wanted to own it after i brought it over the night before) so yeah then we just drove around for like 1.5 hrs, just chatting and what not you know. haha we went to sonic and got some beverages, she wanted a chocolate coke, she didnt like it to much, but oddly enough i did. so i ordered her a dr. pepper. and anyway we went back to her house and watched the movie with the parents, which was cool and all. but we couldnt freeking kiss when i had to leave though, cause her parents were on the couch as well....haha its cool though. and i believe someone said dont move to fast, you might scare her away....that shouldn't happen she told me she liked me before i told her that I liked her. and she texted me lastnight and was like...hey FYI for the near future, if you want to be a couple your gonna have to ask me, cause im not going to.( or something like that) she said it nicer than i said it....so i just dont know how to ask her out...i dont want to be cheesy and just be like, hey wanna go out?...thats just not gonna work. sorry for sounding like an idiot about this..i jsut havent had many girlfriends, and i dont know how to work things like i should, i guess im doing something right cause ashley likes me.....i dunno

[jdmishcb7]

well just bring up the ways that have already been discussed.

"hey i really like you a lot...blah blah blah...you make me feel good...blah blah blah...i can really see us making a really good couple"
"oh really, that's so sweet, i'd love to!"

later on stfu bitch DIYM, haha just kidding

on a semi-serious side note, i have learned that you always wanna leave the girl wanting more, so maybe it's fortunate that you guys didn't kiss...

[91AccordLX]

lol she leaves me wanting more, she kissed me without any notice on our third date, i so wasnt expecting it.

[93accord2dr]

Fushigi what are you talking abotu your wrong 100% wrong, you need to roll up and be like hey baby you wanna ride? HAHAH j/k j/k but take her to diner hang out and eventually someone will ask you a couple or somethign and you will realize that you two are a couple ENJOY! Wooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooot
heres a convo i had with 92accorddx abotu how i never got any in my cb7 but i got mad &^$$* in my truck.
oySauceCB7: so i be holding her hand while i drive
SoySauceCB7: she gets all happy
SoySauceCB7: :P
SexyGigilo6: aww
SoySauceCB7: HAHA
SoySauceCB7: i hit a stop sign we french
SoySauceCB7: a little touchy
SexyGigilo6: Jan Khan = love machine
SoySauceCB7: LOL

wtf that's me

not 92accorddx ((((

[HenRoc]

yea man.. just take it as it comes.. no real need to make it 'official'... Just chill with her all the time, and then after a little while, talk to her about how you feel..

i'm in the same situation as you right now. Just broke up with my gf of 3 years. Things just weren't the same anymore, and I wasn't enjoying her company at all. Got a new girl now, and she's freakin awesome. We never officially asked each other out, but we've titled ourselves as 'dating' after a few conversations..

Is that chick from Derry,NH?

Anways congrats dude..I never asked my gf out we just had talked alot over the phone and online...once we met we pretty much clicked together..and ever since last year 4-23-04 nothings gone wrong.

Best of luck man and hope she treats you well better than the last homie

[alb_accord]

man its as simple as that. beeeee cool. don't say stupid shit. find out what are her turn on and her turn ofs. DON'T ASK HER LETS GO OUT" because u are already going out. see if she likes going on on restaurants or whatever. then find a romantic restaurant (not near u but kind of far so u guys can talk) and take her there. if she likes dancing just go out in a night club(the serious ones) and dance ur heart all night. then wait till the extasy kicks in(i don't mean the drug lmao) and then u'll see what happens.

just tread her right. don't show ur self as a jelous type. show her u care.
as blue girl said <<<<chase her a little bit(don't be a stocker hahha)

and by the way u have passed a critical point "showing her that u are a serious guy looking for a serious relation ship,,,(since u came out of a long term relationship) girls love that. i mean they die for it. unless there is a crazy one that wants to be fucked in the ass.... then u know what to do.

don't talk about ur ex alot. when asked about her,,,, just wait like u thinking of something then say how u were crushed or how she ripped ur heart off ur cheast and steped on it etc etc etc etc.

be playfull. hold hands,,, hold her on ur arms etc.....
i am sure other people can add other things.

the most important thing
don't go with this girl with the idea of another long term relationship. because if it don't happen then u gona be crushed even more.<<<< and we don't that do we

goood luck and take some pic of that girl. lol

AND BUMP ON THE PIC OF "BLUE HONDA GIRL" lol i just had to say it.