Do you pay for the date? DATING ADVICE

[MikeW]

I had to ask her to pay. I felt like a tool.

Like sexing?

This man knows whats up.

My girl friend is offended when I won't let her pay some times. She convinces me that she should at LEAST pay half of it. She says it like this: "If I payed the entire bill, you would feel awkward, wouldn't you? Now that's how I feel."
She's the best. Not because she pays for stuff, but because she cares enough to want to pay for things.

Thats the way mine is. She hates me paying for things. However she's amde alot of really big changes, for both of us, but also for me, so i feel obligated to pick up the bills and things until her military stuff starts coming in. Even after that, i'll still pay for things like dinner and stuff, but she'll have her own spedning money and wont have to rely on me for everything. Thats what bothers her.

Marry that girl.

I married mine.

HA HA HA! I'm way ahead of you! I've already got the ring. And it's going to happen in 9 days.

Thats awesome William! Congrats and good luck. She was an awesome chick. GL!

Yeah, if money matters to her that much that she decides to stop dating you because you can't afford to keep paying to take her places... then she's not the girl for you anyway.

Quote of the THREAD, right here. She may be a richy or used to being spoiled but if she doesnt understand that youre broke or is only interested in the things you pay for then she's not worth it.

You could still do "normal" things and save some money. If you go to the movies, dont go to the Friday night movies as they'll be more. Take her to an afternoon movie during the week. Theyre almost always a few bucks cheaper. Also, if you rent a movie, get it from RedBox, theyre $1 a day. And chance are, youre not going to watch the movie more than once anyway. If you're gonna take her out for dinner, try to hide youre broke-ness by saying its been a long time since you been to (insert cheap restaurant here) and you wanna go and see what she says. Also, chillin at the beach dont cost money, other than gas.

[Julianachos]

I took a girl to dinner, and paid with my card. We had a great time, and went for ice cream afterward... Unplanned, and I forgot cash (no credit at the ice cream stand!)

I had to ask her to pay. I felt like a tool.

Ah, joy. Wednesday, I told the girlfriend let's go to Cold Stone. I was about to pay with the card (total was $8, only had $5 cash on me) but the card denied cause I had 70 cents left. At least she was like "Want me to get my card? Kay."

[MikeW]

Well, see, if you go to pay and your card wont work or cant work, then thats not as bad as "oh darn, i forgot my wallet. can you pay?" At least you tried.

[Bcozzi71]

the girl iv been dating for 4 (almost 5 years WOW) i always used to pay. Now its to the ponit where i pay 75% and pay 25% sometime she will just leave tip and sometimes she says enh just let me grab the whole bill since you always pay....but if im taking out another girl esp. if were just dating and not a couple you ALWAYS pay...

[JohnD1079]

with my current/ex, she paid for the first time we ever went out. After she insisted like 23028 times, i was like ok fine, pay. On official dates I always pay. When we hang out its usually I pay or she pays. We dont hold money agasint each other.

Once you settle into the relationship, cheaper things become normal. Go to all the touristy places from out of town visit, steal her for a moonlit walk in a park on forrest, go rollerblading, go to a playground and be kids, go walking downtown (In the hippie part of town there is usually a famous street with store and shops that sell odd things), go to LA, have a isolated picnic with some sex for desert, find a fountain and get wet.

A "date" to me is more formal and costs money though. Usually dinner and somewhere else you go to sit back and be entertained. Movies, Comedy Show, Play/Musical(if shes into that), Dave and Busters, or even lay on the beach and watch the sunset to some good music. All my dates are usually a little less than $100, but i dont start spending that money till i know I like her, and even then, its once a week tops if I even have the money.

[Gemini]

I normally splurg on chicks when i start dating but once we in a relationship she knows that she has to somewhat help with paying for shit.

Even during dating, after the 2nd date chicks normally offer to pay for certain things. Shit, i even just telll them, 'I'll get the tickets, can you handle the snacks?"

[Julianachos]

Even during dating, after the 2nd date chicks normally offer to pay for certain things. Shit, i even just telll them, 'I'll get the tickets, can you handle the snacks?"

"Are you gonna buy me a drank?" /T-Pain autotune

[kantkillkeenan]

ok for real..my gf and i take turns paying for everything really..gas and food when we eat out. I pay for it most of the time just because i make a shit ton more then she does...but its nice to have her pay for groceries every once in a blue moon..lol

[Leung]

i haven't been on a date in months.... but when i was, i paid.

[deevergote]

I keep seeing the title of this thread and reading "Do you pay for DATING ADVICE?"

[renegade28x]

I keep seeing the title of this thread and reading "Do you pay for DATING ADVICE?"

hahaha omgosh that made me laugh lol

red box ftw n thanks guys ill keep melting my debit card n see where this goes n if i really do like her ill break it down to her down the road

i hoooope pep boys calls back after that interview!!!!! thatd help so much lol

[deevergote]

Just take it as an investment in your own entertainment, if anything. You're not spending money on her, you're spending it on yourself... and what you're paying for is her company. Not in a prostitute/escort sort of way, obviously... because that's gross... but still.

Never pay more than it's worth. If her company isn't worth you being broke... and she won't pay (or be happy with free/cheap stuff)... then kick her to the curb.

[gcvphoto]

Nope. Broke college student. She pays for the dates.

[renegade28x]

Just take it as an investment in your own entertainment, if anything. You're not spending money on her, you're spending it on yourself... and what you're paying for is her company. Not in a prostitute/escort sort of way, obviously... because that's gross... but still.

Never pay more than it's worth. If her company isn't worth you being broke... and she won't pay (or be happy with free/cheap stuff)... then kick her to the curb.

excellent point

k well im off to pep boys to go buy a crapload of oil n filters....

got 6 cars/trucks to do!....plus carwashes for em..

need the mooonaaaaayyy lol

peace guys

[JohnD1079]

Just take it as an investment in your own entertainment, if anything. You're not spending money on her, you're spending it on yourself... and what you're paying for is her company. Not in a prostitute/escort sort of way, obviously... because that's gross... but still.

Never pay more than it's worth. If her company isn't worth you being broke... and she won't pay (or be happy with free/cheap stuff)... then kick her to the curb.

#1 Thats not gross, you should check out Penthouse on Cottman Ave

#2, I think that's pretty expensive for some of your "own entertainment". There are many cheap dates where you can easily get a feel for a girl. Something casual like coffee, bubble tea or ice cream will usually give you a feel for the girl and let you know if shes worth investing. No need to drop some of your hard earned money to find that out