Anyone else is sick of being babied by their parents?

[Gyuri87]

This is so frustrating! It can get on my nerves so bad sometimes!

Just to make things clear, I consider myself very lucky of having parents like mine. When it comes to love, they have more than any other parents I know. They've always given me and my sisters everything we've always wanted, and that even if it meant/means scarifying their own comfort and fun. I truly love them but...

There's one thing they don't seem like they will ever understand, and it is that I am not a fucking baby anymore.

Today (Tuesday) I had a class in the morning from 8 to 10. My next class is only at noon which leaves me 2 hours of free time. I've decided to pick up McDonald's and come home to rest a little. My dad happened to be home because it is a Jewish holiday, and since his boss is one, the company is closed. So anyway... I walk in, sit down at my computer with my hashbrowns and coffee when he walks in too and says "You've been drinking a lot of coffee lately, it is not good for your health."

For god sakes!!! It's not like I'm smoking or do drugs! Besides, it isn't even true I drink a lot of coffee. I rarely do. Only when I see friends just to chat or during weekdays when really, I am dead tired. To some of you it might just be a comment but to me it isn't. I am 21! Don't tell me what to drink or eat and how to do it! My mom does it all the time too. "Hurry up your food will get cold.", "Put a little salt on it." or "Eat this."

My dad in front of my friends puts his hand on the top of my head and gives it little taps like you do to kids. He even tells my friends I'm still like a baby. Lucky they are friends I've known since primary school.

How would you react seriously?

I'm sure there are other ways of showing me their love than treating me like a baby. I don't mind being loved, I shouldn't even be saying this. However, not the way they do. They just don't get it.

Sometimes I feel like I really am one when I'm with them. I can't look at girls in fear that they will notice for example or even talk about them with my parents. My dad is nothing someone I can have a beer with. Imagine what he would say about a beer and how disappointed would he be if coffee according to him is already bad for me? I am often yelling and they don't seem to understand why and I didn't myself for a long time but now I know... It is all because of that. Around them I simply lose credibility of being a man. On top of that, I don't look like 21 really so imagine.

Anyone else wants to let it out?

[JoshM]

Why don't you move out of your parents house then?
IMO, if you live under their roof, you are still their "baby".

Get your own place, that will show them that you are maturing and ready to step into the world by yourself.
Sure, you'll still need their support, whether it's financially, morally, etc.
They'll always see you as their "baby", that's never going to change.

[92vig]

My mom tries to do that when I go over to my parents house. My dad doesn't. He hasn't since I was maybe 15 or 16. My mom will still try and check up on me. Ask how I'm doing and shit. Its just one of those things mothers do. But even when I lived with them, all I did was eat and sleep there. Otherwise I was working on my car, working in general, etc. etc.

[Gyuri87]

Why don't you move out of your parents house then?
IMO, if you live under their roof, you are still their "baby".

Get your own place, that will show them that you are maturing and ready to step into the world by yourself.
Sure, you'll still need their support, whether it's financially, morally, etc.
They'll always see you as their "baby", that's never going to change.

I think that would be the worst thing ever to do! First I cannot afford it. They cannot afford it. I did everything I could to prove them I am not a fricking baby anymore. I went to the other side of the world, literally (Sydney Australia) by myself! It was the first time ever I took a plane besides when we moved here when I was 5! I drove down to the states many times with friends. On the way back from Virginia Beach, although we were 3 friends, I drove us home. It took 22 hours and several drinks high in sugar but I made it. Wherever I went alone or with friends, I always made it safe with not problems. What else could I do while I'm in the same house? I brought a girl home that stayed 3 weeks with me, in the same room. Anything else I can do?

[bcjammerx]

I do know how you feel...it's not as simple as "just move out"...contraty to popular opinion...unless your loaded or grew up in a well off family...it's never that simple.

It's a combination of frustration over being old enough to take care of yourself, but not having either the education to get a well paying job or not being in a position in your job that pays you enough to where you could move out.

Plus you then feel guilty about being so upset with your parents over their treatment of you because they are really helping you out...but they irritate you so badly.

I really can't say anything other than I know how you feel, I'm 26 and still dealing with this issue to some extent.

You'll notice that something that doesn't matter will throw your temper off like crazy (I.E. you could have said, NON sarcastically, "I appreciate your concern but I'm more than old enough to decide whether I should drink coffee and if I'm drinking it too much, but I do appreciate that you worry about my health") --- it prevents you from thinking clearly enough to give a mature "grown up" response which would promote your parents NOT making those statements again. Again...I know how you feel. The best advice i can give is this.

You KNOW they are going to say things or do things, try to think ahead. My parents were so damn predictable HA HA. You HAVE to SHOW them by words, action, and decision, that YOU are ABLE to make good decisions. Also, that while these decisions will NOT be what THEY would do, it is YOUR decision to make. They should support you and give their opinion but not continue to attempt to alter your path. They are roadsigns not detour signs. YOU have to decide to take the exit or keep going, they can't detour you. BUT you have to see it from their point of view...you are still their kid...*sigh* in their house. It's not going to improve until you move out and get on your own, but I hate to tell you....even then they'll stick their opinion in there. Just try to stay calm and give mature thoughtful responses that show you HAVE thought about this already, and you have weighed the choices, and made your decision and you didn't just make some reckless choice.

It DOES get better

[accordtypeR]

hey you would always be babied by your parents...they call it love

[92vig]

Bcjammerx hit it right on. Dude, your parents will always put in their 2 cents, and they'll always try and help you/take care of you/whatever no matter how old you are. Shit, my dads going to be 51 next month and my grandparents still baby him when they see him...they live 3 hours away and they're like 73 or some crap. If you want your parents to stop, you gotta move out and never tell them anything that you don't want their opinion on.....or just plain stop talking to them.

[Gemini]

I have never been babied by my parents

[WilliamW]

My mom changed the locks on me because I wasn't home every night by 9:45 PM. I was 20 working full time. I eventually moved out the hard way.

[JARHEAD293]

My dad in front of my friends puts his hand on the top of my head and gives it little taps like you do to kids. He even tells my friends I'm still like a baby. Lucky they are friends I've known since primary school.
How would you react seriously?

dude i wish my old man was still alive and pat me on the head. relax and enjoy them

[Gemini]

dude i wish my old man was still alive and pat me on the head. relax and enjoy them

These kids dont get it Felipe...I wish I was raised by my pops and have a positive realtionship with him. When my dad calls i know he wants something so I dont pick up. My moms is cool, we have the same personality and I was raised by m y grandma which i love to death. When you have a loving(sometimes over loving) family appreciate because it could be worst bro...believe that.

[Maple50175]

I AM! I'm 23 lived down at school and everything was awesome. Then I came back home becuase a. it's cheaper then an apt at over 800+ a month, or some crappy apt and having my car broken into, not into that. Then again my bills vs Income= more bills then income so having an apt would be tough.

shit i can't even have women over to sleep over. It's rediculous. So I guess I use people online to try and stay at there places. and it works?

[cb95spd]

maybe when they get older they will realize it..

[JoshM]

dude i wish my old man was still alive and pat me on the head. relax and enjoy them

I wish my dad was around.
I see him about 2-3 times per year.
He left my mom and me when I was 4.

[ChIoVnIdCa]

shit i can't even have women over to sleep over. It's rediculous.