How do you...

[wlfpck]

How do you get over an ex-gf?

Back in highschool, I dated girls because it everyone was dating and stuff. It secured a date for dances as well as a constant source of yeah....

So basically these weren't relationships that meant much to me.

Then I met this girl in college. I dated her and ended up falling for her real bad. I would have done anything for her. (sidenote: She never had kept a relationshkp for more than 2 months.) Then summer came. I went to Houston and she stayed in Cleveland to take summer classes.

When I came back, I noticed her being a little weird and stuff. For the next month or 2, she found out how superficial/fake/materialistic her friends were and pretty much ended up with no friends. I helped her through and stuff. She tells me I mean so much to her.

She was a virgin and we did it for the first time about 3 months into school. After we did it, she tells me that over the summer, some random dude walked up to her and kissed her. Then a week later, she made out with some other random guy. Her explanation was that she missed me so much and was drunk and upset.

I held this against her for a while. I got real paranoid about it. But I think i ended up being all clingy. Towards the end of the school year, I forgave her. We hung out this past summer. So she broke up with me after a little over a year and half.


I was puking and dry heaving for the entire day after she broke up with me. She pretty much doesn't even care (imho) Like she doesn't feel too bad about it. her reason was that she just doesn't have romantic feelings anymore. She told me that she wishes we met senior year.

I think she's just not mature enough for a relationship. I wish she gave me more time.

I need to just forget about her and move on, but I can't. It's like something holding me back. How do you guys get over your ex-gf?

no... alcohol is not the answer that i'm looking for... neither is weed or w/e.

[deevergote]

From what you say, her maturity level is DEFINITELY not where it needs to be for a serious relationship. If she was a virgin, I'm assuming she wasn't a very heavy dater when she was younger... so the attention from those random guys (and the fairly new comfort to act on it) was something new to her. She may have that feeling of "why should I settle now, when there's so much else to explore?" Maybe not, but it happens.


Getting over someone is hard. If your feelings for this girl were deep, you may never be rid of them completely. Trying to erase her from your mind and heart is only going to drive you nuts.

All I can say is accept it. Accept what you feel, and accept what she feels. Know that as she is now, and maybe as she will be forever, won't work in a relationship with you anymore.


Then, find something else that you love... and throw yourself into it. For me, it's always been music. I lose the girl, I start a band... same drama, same excitement, same tired-and-sweaty feeling when I'm done doing my thing...

For some, it's cars. Others... who knows. Dive headfirst into something you love, and you'll be able to push her from the front of your mind. If you're lucky, whatever it is that you love will bring you to someone else that could be much better for you. (this is where my band is better than cars )

[Law Grandeur]

thats horrible dude. honestly, there is no real way to get her out of your mind. love (one sided or not) always leaves something like a watermark. You'll always remember it but it does fade in due time. I usually just throw away every picture i had, anything that reminded me of the girl. Dont talk to her if she tries. Its a long process(well for me it is) so keep your cool and focus on other things. LOL i got into japanese shoes Good luck bro

[visualpoet]

Time is the only thing that's going to help. I've had two relationships that crushed me when they ended, and nothing works except grieving, accepting and waiting. On the upside, it will eventually stop hurting, not tomorrow or next week or next month, but it does get better. Try to console yourself with the realization that if it didn't work out, it wasn't meant to be. If it is, it will come back around. I'm married to the woman of my dreams now, but ten years ago we dated and it didn't work out then. Her sister is married to one of my friends, so we would occasionally bump into each other through the years, and one day it just happened again for us. Just try not to dwell on the feeling of loss, keep yourself busy, and one day you'll realize that you haven't thought about her in a few hours. And then one day later, you'll realize you haven't thought about her in months.

And think of all the money you used to spend on being with her that you can put into your car now!

[tn_accords]

Time and only time.

This is d112crzy btw.

[92vig]

Damn man, sorry to hear that. I agree with everyone else...time heals all. It's hard to have someone there all the time and then all of a sudden not have them around, especially when you're really attached. But feelings do change. She wasn't ready, that doesn't mean she won't be ready for you in the future. You don't have to completely shut her out of your life. You could remain friends and talk occasionally and who knows, maybe you two are right for eachother but she needs time to realize it. But it's not the end of the world bro, another girl will come your way when you aren't expecting it...when you're not even looking. But you could just say that she wasn't the ONE for you...you could date 20 girls for a year at a time and still not find that one special person. I'd hope it doesn't take you 20 years, but it does happen to some people. Enjoy your time man, you only live once and you have to make the best of what you're dealt.

[heylookitsdylan]

my and my girl broke up over some stupid shit after 2 years, and If it werent for SleepyCB7, Cmak (& his girl) and a few various other people, I would have went insane.

Times like these are what good friends are for, Support. as well as family. although sleepy and cmak are both like family.

[deevergote]

That is true. Having good friends to lean on is a HUGE help. I have quite a few true friends on this forum that have helped me through hard times.

I also have a couple female friends that, though they're ONLY friends, would still spend time with me... dating without "dating", I suppose you could call it! Dating without the cost of paying for the girl, and without the benefits of... well... you know. Still, having a pleasant female presence to occupy your time, even just as a friend, was a very helpful thing for me.

[nine_deuce]

I've read "the fastest way to get over someone, is to get under someone else"

Never really thought that to be true, until I too was dumped. I did the moping around, didn't want to do anything, then I met this other girl, we were just hanging out, but, my ex saw us around, she was soooooo mad, she kept trying to call, telling friends to tell me she wanted me back, I just ignored it.

So, just find someone else to occupy your time, as I'm sure you've noticed, when you get used to spending a shit ton of time with someone, then, they're not there... and you have nothing but time on your hands, you go insane.

It sux, but, the best thing to do is: move on, they have

[noobcake]

So, just find someone else to occupy your time

or your friday night

then go buy some performance mods for the cb and install on sunday

lol

[eriemoto.]

i just got out of a 2.5 year relationship. it was hard at first, but we broke up on good terms. the 'umph' just wasn't there anymore and we both agreed. best advice i can say is to be with your friends. take your mind off things and just chill. and give it time, you wont be over it in a day

[alb_accord]

let me guess. after you broke up, you kept calling her asking why did this happen what did you do wrong etc.... did you do all of this?

[deevergote]

let me guess. after you broke up, you kept calling her asking why did this happen what did you do wrong etc.... did you do all of this?

That never works... and half the guys in the world do it anyway. I'm one of them. Well, I don't always try to figure things out, but I'll try every angle to make it work.

[LinX]

end all communications and move on.

[skilzz]

become a pornstar. you will get filthy rich and she will regret leaving u after seeing you perform


















seriously dont do that. try finding a new girl and one day you will look back and say WTF was i doin with that witch?