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Well, most of you probably remember when about 5 months ago, me and my girlfriend broke up. Well, you may also remember that a month ago, we got back together. The thing is, some things have happend over the 4 months that we were not together. Before the break up, she was all against drinking and stuff... she also was only 20. Well, now that we are back together, she is 21 and now thinks that it is fun to go out to the bars and the occasional party and drink. Now, this is something that has been very hard for me to deal with. She says that she goes to the bar sometimes with her freinds and has some drinks, and that sometimes other dudes will buy her drinks. This bothers me that other dudes are buyin my girlfriend drinks. I know its innocent, but I know why guys buy girls drinks and I dont like the intention that they have. She has told me time and time again that she would never act on these intentions and that she would never ever cheat on me. Well, that made me feel good, but still knowing that other dudes are buyin her drinks makes me uneasy... Anyway... I have not had the chance to have a drink with her untill we went to this party on Saturday. I picked her up and I drove to the party. Knowing that I had to drive, I didnt drink much at all, on the other hand, my GF drank quite a few. Well, after she had about 3, I told her I didnt really want to see her drinking anymore (this is all new to me, and seeing her drink was just way too much to handle). And she gave me the excuse "fine, I will not drink around you anymore" and I told her that I didnt mind that, I just would have liked it if she stopped for the night. She all defenseles and said that she was an adult now and she could make her own decisions, so she kept on.... Now, about an hour later, I wanted a cigar so bad (yeah, I know, old guys only smoke them...) but no one had one, so I was about to bum a smoke off my friend, and she was standing there. She was like "I dont want you to smoke those, they can kill you... I dont even like to see your friends smoking." This kinda made me mad because she is now tryin to tell me what to do. Just so I wouldnt make matter worse, I didnt take the smoke. The rest of the night went on and I took her home. Once she got home, she went right to sleep (odd considering she was teasing me most the night). I dont know why, but this whole her drinking bothers me. I drink from time to time when I am with my friends, but then again, when we drink, its not at a bar with girls we dont know around... I tell myself that I am being selfish in thinking its OK for me, but not for her. I guess its just because she was not like that the whole 8 months we were together. Maybe its my old EX, the one who cheated on me when she went to a party and got drunk, maybe thats leaving some stain in my head. But I dont know why its so hard to get over... maybe I am afraid that more things have changed that I just dont know about yet. I mean, the first 3 weeks we were back together, it was great, but then again, she hadnt gone out to drink during that time. What is my problem?
Why does this bother me? I tried to talk to her about it, but she just tells me that its not right for me to do something and then be against it when she wants to... I mean, I dont know...
Sorry for making you read all that, I know, it looks like a novel, but its just something that has been bothering me. I just am thinking that maybe its just an "Im 21 now" phase or something. I love her soo much, and I just wish this didnt bother me.
Well, most of you probably remember when about 5 months ago, me and my girlfriend broke up. Well, you may also remember that a month ago, we got back together. The thing is, some things have happend over the 4 months that we were not together. Before the break up, she was all against drinking and stuff... she also was only 20. Well, now that we are back together, she is 21 and now thinks that it is fun to go out to the bars and the occasional party and drink. Now, this is something that has been very hard for me to deal with. She says that she goes to the bar sometimes with her freinds and has some drinks, and that sometimes other dudes will buy her drinks. This bothers me that other dudes are buyin my girlfriend drinks. I know its innocent, but I know why guys buy girls drinks and I dont like the intention that they have. She has told me time and time again that she would never act on these intentions and that she would never ever cheat on me. Well, that made me feel good, but still knowing that other dudes are buyin her drinks makes me uneasy... Anyway... I have not had the chance to have a drink with her untill we went to this party on Saturday. I picked her up and I drove to the party. Knowing that I had to drive, I didnt drink much at all, on the other hand, my GF drank quite a few. Well, after she had about 3, I told her I didnt really want to see her drinking anymore (this is all new to me, and seeing her drink was just way too much to handle). And she gave me the excuse "fine, I will not drink around you anymore" and I told her that I didnt mind that, I just would have liked it if she stopped for the night. She all defenseles and said that she was an adult now and she could make her own decisions, so she kept on.... Now, about an hour later, I wanted a cigar so bad (yeah, I know, old guys only smoke them...) but no one had one, so I was about to bum a smoke off my friend, and she was standing there. She was like "I dont want you to smoke those, they can kill you... I dont even like to see your friends smoking." This kinda made me mad because she is now tryin to tell me what to do. Just so I wouldnt make matter worse, I didnt take the smoke. The rest of the night went on and I took her home. Once she got home, she went right to sleep (odd considering she was teasing me most the night). I dont know why, but this whole her drinking bothers me. I drink from time to time when I am with my friends, but then again, when we drink, its not at a bar with girls we dont know around... I tell myself that I am being selfish in thinking its OK for me, but not for her. I guess its just because she was not like that the whole 8 months we were together. Maybe its my old EX, the one who cheated on me when she went to a party and got drunk, maybe thats leaving some stain in my head. But I dont know why its so hard to get over... maybe I am afraid that more things have changed that I just dont know about yet. I mean, the first 3 weeks we were back together, it was great, but then again, she hadnt gone out to drink during that time. What is my problem?
Why does this bother me? I tried to talk to her about it, but she just tells me that its not right for me to do something and then be against it when she wants to... I mean, I dont know...
Sorry for making you read all that, I know, it looks like a novel, but its just something that has been bothering me. I just am thinking that maybe its just an "Im 21 now" phase or something. I love her soo much, and I just wish this didnt bother me.
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